Quote from: suzifrommd on May 07, 2015, 08:36:14 PM
What can be done? Are adult transitioners doomed to have their hearts torn out and their families blown part from now until the end of time? Or is there some other way?
Were you interested in what can be done as a couple to improve chances, or what can be done within the medical or trans community in regard to education and research? Experiencing this first hand, this is a very complex situation with multiple internal and external factors in play. Of the handful of factors listed below that could affect success, the only area where I have personally seen improvement is that societies in general have been more accepting of LGBT issues (also possibly resources for self acceptance).
I do have very good support when reading info from places such as this site, but I do not have a structured approach to addressing my marriage. In other words, it seems like we have gone through a trial-and-error approach to strengthening our marriage by reading about failures/successes from others, therapy support, and making adjustments as we go. Trial-and-error approach is not ideal because transition is emotionally stressful (understatement of the year), and we are in no place mentally to make wise choices. An ideal situation would be to have an institutionalized list of best management practices, or a networked support group of professionals that can provide support in addressing the below factors. An in between approach that goes beyond trial-and-error is what I can hope for but am not aware of anything available outside of individual/couples therapy.
Internal factors (Individual)
- One's acceptance and well being post acceptance.
- Rate of transition that would improve chances.
- Variations of transition that would improve chances.
Internal factors (Couple)
- Strengthening a relationship prior to a transition.
- Adjusting to grieving/loss of a partner going through transition.
- Adjusting to physical/emotional changes in a transition.
- Adjusting to changes in intimacy.
External Factors
- Society view of trans, trans relationships, and same sex relationships.
- Couple support networks and adjusting to loss of certain support networks.
- Legal protection.