My Therapista asks, "fetish or trans?" Later session, "To what extent trans, and to what extent just liking to covertly wear women clothing?"
Sex oriented cis-F. Dearly wish I were born cis-F. I ♡ cis-F, across all sorts of planes, poles, presentations . . .
I explain it's all of the above. I recently described to her that the "sex message" is like a bad cell phone connection. And now coming to realize and appreciate that the "sex message" is rich, varied, complex, convoluted at times, and inscrutable.
More and more we're realizing that perhaps we cannot present as "that cis-F" but that the presentation working now for me is less and less cis-M, more and more cis-F.
That's what transition is about -- trans along the presentation continuum toward the other pole in the normative dyad. I choose to park along the continuum, the authentic me I am. Non-binary.
Not a costume, not fetish, not affectation . . . complexly me.