What do you prefer to wear to bed? and what do you actually wear?

[ToniB]

I have just worn my first nighty to bed with My Wife I was expecting at least a dirty look of comment but nothing at all so I think I dodged that bullet LOL

[RachaelAnne]

About 16 months ago I switched to 100% female night ware.  As I'm not fully out to my children yet, I stick to T-shirt or tank top style cotton night gowns or pj's that match my wife. 

My wife has been very accepting of this as long as I don't get anything lacy.

So far the kids have not asked many questions.   The did ask about the night gowns (  "What's that you're wearing to bed daddy?" ) and I just told then that I was wearing long night shirts.  Thankfully my kids have just accepted it and haven't asked any additional questions.

Some day I'll be able to wear cute silk and lace nighties...

[LizK]

"My wife has been very accepting of this as long as I don't get anything lacy."

Hi Rachael Anne

I don't get this whole you can wear something so long as its not too girly or lacy? My wife had the same reaction, I really get the feeling that it is still hangover from the days when anyone in drag was always a caricature and usually wearing something overtly sexual and lacy. I don't know I am guessing...I have some really feminine dresses and tops which don't seem to bother her. Put a bit of lace on it and I suddenly become every caricature of a "man in a dress"

My wife now says she has no issues with me wearing a nightie now that she knows I don't want a lacy frilly baby doll nighty but a more practical if girly one. The PJ's I picked out have a cute animal on the font and are in some really pretty colors but again no lace and she was happy. Does lace hold a special importance of some kind that I am totally unaware of?

I have to admit the other day we were having this kind of discussion, I lost the plot a bit saying I was fed up with all this crap with the clothes. I am transitioning, I am going to need to buy and wear appropriate clothing  but once again everyone else's sensibilities always come before my needs. That may sound a bit cruel but unfortunately it is true. Me not wanting it to be true doesn't make it so...I guess part of the anger and frustration is when will it become Ok?

Is the lace symbolic in some way? Personally I like a bit of lace but too much is not my thing and seriously I have worn some very sexy nightwear with plenty of lace over the years and I must admit as far as comfort goes I have not worn anything I would rate overly high.

It is very hard to take baby steps and keep everyone happy when the majority of your wardrobe is limited to T-shirts, jeans and leggings and everything else I have including most of my dresses, skirts and pants don't fit very well because I have lost so much weight. Once I get to my goal weight and have maintained it for awhile I will buy a new wardrobe that I can hopefully co-ordinate a bit better(but no lace!!! HA HA)

Sarah T

[Karen5519]

It really depends on the time of year and how cold it is!  Having said that, it is either tap pants and a camisole or a longer gown.....that is unless my partner is in an amorous mood where then it could be a range of things!

[RobynD]

"My wife has been very accepting of this as long as I don't get anything lacy."

Hi Rachael Anne

I don't get this whole you can wear something so long as its not too girly or lacy? My wife had the same reaction, I really get the feeling that it is still hangover from the days when anyone in drag was always a caricature and usually wearing something overtly sexual and lacy. I don't know I am guessing...I have some really feminine dresses and tops which don't seem to bother her. Put a bit of lace on it and I suddenly become every caricature of a "man in a dress"

Sarah T

This is a really interesting question and one that i ponder a bit too. My spouse seems to try and influence me toward the androgynous end of the feminine style and sometimes, gosh darnit i just want to be super girlie. I suspect it all comes back to " i really would rather you stay a man, if given the choice" and that saddens me.

Still, i should be thankful for the support i do get and I am.

[ToniB]

I also have the same thing with My Wife and Clothes she is fine with Me wearing feminine clothing as long as it is not overtly feminine as previously mentioned lace and frills . Skirts and Dresses are still a very strict NO NO she said You can wear them when you are alone but actually I am OK with what I am wearing anyhow . I think that Wife's still try to Keep a little bit of their "Husband" I know that is the case with My Wife She said the other day when We where having a " Discussion " I cannot see the Man I married in You any more all I see is a Woman when I look at You .  This has led to a lack of Physical contact as she said I only fancy MEN . We have come to a agreement to have a Date night once a Week where I will wear a pair of plain Jeans and an old SHIRT no makeup and we will have a glass of wine a nice film maybe a snog and see what happens .Neither of us wants to lose what We have so We will see what We will see 

[DanielleA]

When it is cold I wear a long sleeve night shirt and one of my fluffy warm pajama bottoms. In mid weather I am usually in  boxers and a CAMI or a nightie & on a hot summer night its undies or less.... Depending on who else might be spending the night

[Lyric]

In the summertime I may go almost all day without so much as a stitch, but I always put on elastic waist baggy shorts and a t-shirt at bedtime. I guess I like to be ready for any emergency.

[JayceeTG]

I have been wearing tights and panties and my night gown lately to bed and if I am feeling like an adventure I will sometimes wear a bra with some breast forms that I bought that are very comfortable to wear at times as well to feel more femme. But most nights I will wear my night gown to bed. Or just panties and a bra. It all depends on my mood or sometimes I will just sleep naked lol

[DawnOday]

I am like Devlyn, just wear what the good Lord gave me. I sweat so much while sleeping it is not uncommon to wake up in a puddle.

[SadieBlake]

Always panties, usually a bra which usually feels more comfortable for me at night. Sometimes a nightgown, chemise or camisole, usually I'm too tired by the time I get to bed to want to change. I prefer chemises most but again, usually too fagged by the time I sack out to be bothered putting one on.

[jentay1367]

I have a couple of realLY soft Vanity Fair nightgowns I've had forever. When it's cold I wear some fleece pajama bottoms under them. And....oh yeah, some big old OVERSIZED comfy nylon granny panties. Dang....I'm tired now! ZZZZZZzzzzzz.............

[frnkierondthedysphoria]

I wear a pair of pants or boxers and sometimes a shirt.

[Fresas con Nata]

I wear a pair of pants or boxers and sometimes a shirt.

Yes, exactly that. I have to be careful with the shirt because I might wake up in the middle of the night sweating and then it's hard for me to sleep again.

[Michelle_P]

Briefs, and in warm weather, a cotton tank top.  In cold weather, a pajama gown that hits below the knee.

[Tessa James]

Just exactly what i wore at birth minus a couple of nuts and added curves

[kaitylynn]

Panties and nothing up top.  I usually wear a bralette or soft fitted tshirt.

[mac1]

Nothing for many years.  Panties only recently.

Prefer nothing but wear panties.

[Violets]

A nightie and undies. I can't stand not wearing underwear to bed because then I can feel 'it' when I move, which is a trigger for dysphoria.

[Denise]

Mid length nightgown.  No undies, but the girls are just starting to come in so a bra may be in the near future, mostly for protection.  😀

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