I'm 61 and was AMAB. I'm also a DES child and I was born on the intersex spectrum. The surgeons got at me when I was about 11 or 12 so I've got a few interesting scars down there. Twenty five years ago when I started HRT it was such a blessed relief. My natural T levels were no good for me and made me feel like my mind was being twisted into making me something I'm not. My body is a different shape from one side to the other with my right side looking more femme than the left, but when I started puberty I began to grow breast tissue on my left side.
I did my best to be male, but always felt like I was a complete disaster at it. My Dad pretty much always seemed to be disappointed in me. I know now that I'm NB and I'm also asexual. I only married because I wanted children and because all my friends were getting married. My two children are now grown up adults who love me very much and I have absolutely no regrets over the birth of my children even though marriage was a living hell for me.
My brain is wired for companionship, even intimate companionship, - BUT not for sexual attraction. Sex interests me about as much as somebody sticking their finger up my nose.
Being asked by my ex-wife if I loved her was nothing short of confusing. Companionship, friendship are things I understand, but she didn't want a companion, she wanted a husband and a male lover and I was no good at that. When I was growing up society's expectation of binary pair bonding and sexual attraction were a complete mystery for me. I tried to pretend, to act the part, but only ended up confusing and upsetting myself. I though I might be gay, but I quickly found out I wasn't. Male sexuality is beyond incomprehensible for me, - lie, use, discard, - seems to be about the only summary I can make about it.
I know I'm not male and after trying to transition to being a woman I know I'm not a woman either. HRT did give me my mind back though and once I had an orchie done the sense of relief was immense. I like that I have breasts, no facial hair and almost no body hair. I like that my skin is softer and finer and my hair is nicer and isn't falling out like my two brothers' hair is. I'm on Climara patches and they seem to last a long time on me before I need to change them. When I transitioned I was on Premarin (which I don't recommend to anyone) and after being on it a while it caused the skin on my genitals to become thin and very fragile. I often get splits in the folds of skin on my genitals which are not a pleasant experience; - which is also a reason why I shun any thought of sexual intimacy apart from being asexual to start with. Fortunately I'm finding that after around five years on the patches that the skin on my genitals isn't quite as delicate now which is a relief. In terms of sensation though my genitals remain largely unfeeling and unresponsive which is exactly what I want.
I don't wear makeup or get my hair styled, - I just let it grow. Clothing is whatever I feel comfortable in and in general unisex is what I like best. I have a thing for feather earrings and I like wooden beads. In Summer I like to wear long cotton skirts simply because they are comfortable in the heat. Winter is jeans, boots and fingerless gloves. I mostly don't wear a bra unless I need to dress a bit more posh for a special occasion. Ask me if I'm a man or a woman and I will say, 'No'.
There was a period of time in which I took solemn promises as a 3rd order Franciscan, but I was only in truth doing that to hide from myself and keep the world at bay. Leaving the church was the best thing I ever did and while I still have faith in a deity I'm no longer twisting myself to conform to a whole other raft of imprisoning expectations that were just as bad as trying to be binary.
I hope I haven't bored you all with my story, but I thought it was better to give a complete answer to the OP's original question.