Quote from: Kendra on July 18, 2017, 11:54:29 AM
I was misgendered.
Stopped by where a friend works. She told people there I am an ex and we remain close friends. Someone apparently asked her if I am female, they were not 100% sure. The thing is, I had driven from my office in male mode.
That made my day. Been a good week.
Depending on situation I have found getting misgendered is either extreme, searingly painful or feels awesome. I'm starting to realize what those among us who are comfortably and permanently androgynous deal with on a daily basis. They are stronger than I am.
Hallo Kendra!
That was totally awesome! I'm really happy for you!
You're comment provoked a "click" in my mind...

As you may remember, I'm presently in the course of coming out to this big anonymous open world, mostly with little steps (lately a bit bolder), but one thing I noticed is that I presently feel more comfortable and secure as a declaredly androgynous person than as someone desperately (and unsuccesfully, I fear) trying to pass as a ciswoman. I don't really have a clear idea of my present degree of "passability", so I still feel that I'm driving in the midst of a dense fog. Now, this is not what I want. I want to become comfortable with the image I transmit as a woman and to stop being androgynous. And it is that crucial wall that I am now trying to demolish. I even know than from the moment when I convince myself that I pass, actually passing will be much easier.
However, I can now easily understand someone who wishes to stay androgynous - in fact, a year ago I'd never think it could be so easy... Strange thing is, I don't mind whatsoever people giving me funny second looks because of the ambiguity of my androgynous mode (I even find it funny), but I still feel a little uncomfortable when I get the same looks as I'm in Sarah's mode. Human psyche is weird... lol Anyways, I'm not gonna let things stay that way, that's for sure!

Thanks for reading my rambling...
Hugs, Sarah
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