Quote from: JMJW on July 22, 2017, 07:11:48 AM"Stop being a man" sounds like vague nonsense to me. For who's peace of mind is it that feminine presenting people should also act "womanly?" When I hear this is pushed by therapists, one can't help but think it's just a way of telling people who don't fall in line that they aren't real women.
Personally, it was my social dysphoria that was most painful. I cannot tolerate misgendering. Can't abide. So it really depends on what your goals are for transition.
If you need people to gender you correctly, automatically, without thinking about it, you have to present in accordance with the general schema they have in their heads. While this is mostly rooted in voice, face, and body... if those are somewhat masculine, it will take a good deal of social skill to overcome. And when it comes to longer term interactions -- be it an entire evening at a party, or several years in various relationships (including work, hobbies, friends, even lovers), socialization becomes even more important.
This is not a matter of being "real." It's a practical matter, not an existential one.