When did you start getting male fail?

[FinallyMichelle]

I don't think I can pick out a time, it has been a while though, it is complete now from what I can tell.

Had to pick up antibiotics today. I had thought that when I had called to make my appointment for the doctor that they said something about Michael, it was all Michelle when I was at the office though. Anyway the pharmacist kept searching and searching for my prescription, after about 5 minutes she said that they only have this prescription with Michael on it. Maybe they misspelled the name I will call them real quick. I was like no, that's okay. I can't believe that I still have my name change paper in my bag but I am glad that I did. It still took her a little to get it. Are you his legal guardian then, or is he your son? So I had to explain. Then I had to go to the doctors office and fix all that because the last time I was there was more than a year ago so before my name change. She said I thought that you just spelled your name differently, never even occurred to me that you had your name changed. Just then my doctor was behind her going through paperwork and he said, don't worry about it, I didn't know last year when I examined her and still had no clue today with an even more thorough exam.

That has to be some kind of male fail even though I haven't presented male in years, don't you think?

Had to clarify something. I go to the VA for almost everything, they have not had a good track record of fixing my small illnesses though so last year I had to go to an outside doctor. That is the doctor I went to today.

[alex82]

I have always had male-fail... especially as a young boy and through my early college years, I was a skinny, short, runt with no muscle or bulk to speak of, a soft looking girlish face and a voice to match.  It was a nightmare for me as a male... especially around my classmates that were all MALE in every way. 
All of that was of great value as I transitioned.
The first picture is a "before" picture taken at a game while in college.   The second picture is me after my celebration makeover upon completion of my 3rd year of HRT at the beginning of March this year.

Absolutely beautiful, both before and after.

[AnamethatstartswithE]

Well, let's see if you change your mind when it happens because it's often terrifying. And more often that that it's just a bit of a pain.

For me, I've always had mail fail. I used to go into gay bars, and lesbians would chat me up (I like men). So the only change is that people don't correct themselves anymore.

There's nothing pleasant about being followed through London at night, or masturbated at in public, or unsolicited sexual suggestions being made on holiday by strangers. There's nothing flattering about workmen in white vans shouting explicit things from the rolled down window.

Not going to lie that a whistle can be nice, if the man is. But it's usually not and anything more than that can be seriously disheartening when you're out and about trying to get on with something.

If we're counting this then it happened to me more than a year before starting hrt.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,211575

It's only happened a few times, but always at night when no one else is around, it can be scary. Though I also do have a bit of a thing where I feel I need to experience it more to truly be able to call myself a woman.

[Ellement_of_Freedom]

At the 18 month mark, when my hair got long.

[Jessica]

I'm expecting it anytime now!

[Northern Star Girl]

I'm expecting it anytime now!

Jessica: When it happens it will be a memorable and epic moment for you... after that it will start happening more often as you continue your transition journey.
Please keep us updated.
Danielle

[Northern Star Girl]

Actually as a high school boy and also a young college man in my early 20's I had more than occasional male-fail long before I began transitioning and starting HRT when I was 34 or 35 ... thanks to my short and small, non-muscular frame, my soft looking girlish face and a voice to match.  At the time I was devastated and demoralized but now of course all of this was a big advantage for me when I started to transition 4 or 5 years ago and then began HRT just over 3 years ago and then I transitioned to living full-time a year and a half ago.  Now I am happy to say that I never have female-fail !!!

[Yuusui]

It first happened probably 15-20 years before HRT for me. The couple years before coming out as trans were filled with male fail events constantly. My wife and I joked about it every time we hit the mall.

[GCHR88]

I cant remember when it began , but it was long before I physically began transition. I think because I was an incredibly effeminate child my movements and social cues always read female.

[Daisy Jane]

I was 10-11 months in before my first male fail.

[smart_michelle]

I've had my hair long since university, and it is rather wavy anyway. Even when dressed in male 'work' clothes I have been called 'love' (a non-controversial term here in Yorkshire, UK!) Happens a lot when I am in jeans and jumper, usually when someone has seen me from the back.

I think I've been guessed a few times when dressed, but really not very often thankfully, and not recently to my knowledge (I am kind of "half-time" at the moment until I change jobs) , being 5'2'' and working on my voice have really helped I think.

[yayo]

I got male fail quite a lot before taking hormones, then I started living as a woman almost immediately after going on HRT.

[christinej78]

I know most women think catcalls are rude and obnoxious, but I'm looking forward to being whistled at.  Is that just residual male thoughts that think women like it and take it as a compliment?  In my male life, I would never consider disrespecting a woman like that, but as a woman it kinda thrills me.

Jessica,        You are gorgeous; so I think you shouldn't have any problems getting them. I still have testes so I know what I'm talking about. As a girl, I also think you are gorgeous.

Best wishes,

Christine
EDITED: 04 August 2018 - cj78

[Angela49]

I am 11 months HRT and had my first male fail last weekend.
I was in a crap mood and that quickly put a smile on my face!!

[Michelle G]

Long blond hair, boobs and bikini tan lines,
 
  I would be total male fail at the beach if I wore boy shorts and no shirt, just the thought of that makes me feel icky 😐

[Lynne]

I'm still not on HRT but I've grown my hair out more than 10 years ago and since that I get a lot more male fails than before.

Last year I bought a car and I've been fixing it up in my spare time. There are two gas stations nearby where they always great me with "Can I help you, Miss?" and most of the time I'm looking quite messy and not trying to present as female when I go there after playing car mechanic for hours.

Also there were two recent instances where beggars referred to me as Miss when I was not trying to present as female.

The latest male fail was when I was called in to the local eye-specialist's office. I entered after I heard my name and then she repeated my name after I entered thinking that the wrong person came in to her office and asked if I was the person she called.

[ForeverLacey]

My first male fail was in September of 2009 which kick started my premature start of full time. 

[RobynTx]

Apparently last week.  A couple of my patients that I had never met before called me ma'am or got onto our dispatch for sending out two ladies to pick her up.  I imagine once I get rid of the stubble it will happen more often.  Last weekend I had a random guy open a door for me.  That was very unexpected.

[Sarah B]

Hi Everyone

I suppose in the light of the question being asked.  I was never misgendered as far as I know.  I had a complete fail because in Dec 87, I got dressed as Sarah and for a couple of days as I travelled across Australia to see my uncle and everybody I came across, just assumed I was female (well I was).  Then in Dec 88 I did the same exact thing as last year for a whole week and nobody suspected anything.  This was before I changed my life around.

Then in Feb 89, I travelled to Sydney as Sarah and I have failed ever since, because I have been living as me!

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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[Athena]

I guess my first male fail was when I was in elementary school my great grandfather called me a girl. I Guess he new better then me.
As an adult it was before I accepted my truth and I had a goatee though he was drunk and it was evening time.
Last year when I was in Spain I got into an argument about which restroom I should be using, this was before I came out of the closet so I was dressed as a male.