Idk if any of these questions are still pertinent since you posted earlier this month, but Ima go for it anyway, so if you see this, cool cool.
As far as coming out goes, when I came out I ordered it by people I trust, so I told my girlfriend I was NB first, (she's pan, and she helped me to put language to my identity. but we've since broken up, things got weird since I started hormones) and then I told my brother, then my mom, and finally dad. I told all them in person, but it was hard for me to say exactly what I wanted to say. With my brother it took me like four hours just to say it. when I told my momi walked into her bedroom and tried to have a conversation. I was shaking at the foot of her bed in a little ball, and I didn't tell her about my pronouns at that point. I told my dad last. We where going on a camping trip in Yosemite, and we're planning on going on a hike together, we Hiked up a trail to some falls were we had lunch, and I told him then so the hike back he could think and brood, or whatever that is my dad does. I told him I am non binary and what pronouns to use. I would not recommend this if you don't know if your parent is gonna support you, cause being in the woods alone with them could be potentially dicey..... TBH, unless your like a super confident person who doesn't give a heck, it's just scary.
After that I sent a mass email to extended family, I trusted they would be cool, if not sorta avoid my identity, but it was easier to do that over email cause you don't have to be direct.
I think I'd just advise telling them your identity and your pronouns when you come out to somebody. I don't think you should feel like you have to explain to somebody why you feel the way you do tho. Like that's just them trying to invalidate you if they need to know why you identify the way you do. But if they're curious about your identity that's different, but there's a difference between the two.
I still don't know how to correct people, sometimes I'll just repeat the fragment of the sentence they just said wrong with my correct pronouns in it, I think that's the best way.
If you can find any gender queer people at your school or wherever you are presiding, it might be good to talk with them so you have people you know will keep an eye out for you. I'm lucky enough to go to an arts high school in the Bay Area so there's more queers than christians at my school. It's kinda funny.
Anyway, if you havnt already, good luck, and hope all goes well for you. I hope you have supportive people around you too.
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