Quote from: Danielle Kristina on April 21, 2018, 09:13:19 PM
Recognizing that I am transgender is still so new to me. So many of you have suggested that I look into seeing a gender therapist. I'm looking for some advice. What do I say and what can I expect? Are there any questions that should ask the therapist?
Danielle Kristina, 22 Apr 2018
Not being an expert on these things all I can do is "splain" what I did. On 21 Feb 2018, I contacted via email a licensed professional counselor; she gave me an appointment for 08 March 18, the official start of my transition. Prior to my appointment I wrote a bio that outlined my feelings and life over the past 77+ years. Basically, it was about my feelings, desires and actions during that time. I laid it all out, not omitting anything related to my desire to be a girl when I was a kid and a woman when I became an adult.
It was two pages long and was extremely personal. After the introduction and small talk I gave her the bio and asked her to read it. As she progressed through it, she would ask clarifying questions. When she was done I asked for the bio back as it was too personal to have someone other than me have a copy.
When I went I didn't know that much about transgender; I thought maybe I was gay, screwy or just mixed up. At the end of the session she told me I was not gay, I loved women and was a transgender woman.
Long story short, from my first counseling session I was on HRT 27 Mar 18 (2 weeks and five days); on 13 Apr 2018 I had my orchiectomy, five weeks and one day from that first session.
Depending on numerous factors, such as age, motivation, availability of transgender friendly counselors, doctors, surgeons, one's willingness to travel for treatment, etc. you can proceed as rapidly or as slowly as you feel comfortable. I am fortunate in that I live in a suburb of Fort Worth, a part of the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex; everything I needed is right here.
I don't know your age or where you are located; my only advice is to do what you believe is correct for you and makes you happy. Don't worry about what others think because no matter what one does there will always be someone that doesn't like it; live for you.
I'm only one person, I did what I feel is the right thing for me. I want to live the rest of my life as the woman I have always wanted to be.
You will find lots of great information on Susan's Place and plenty of good advice and first person experiences. Hope this helps in some small way. I know I don't have all the answers and I did rely on the experiences of Susan's members.
Best Always,
Christine