I recently wrote this and I figure I am a year away from sharing this with family and friends. Feedback would be appreciated. Thanks, Emma
To my family and friends:
I have been battling all my life with a condition that is known as gender dysphoria.
I have only recently been able to piece together the fragments in my life that has allowed me to finally understand the personal pain that I have hidden from myself, my family and my friends.
I was hardwired female before birth and then had that reality buried under layers of male hormones, male socialization, gender programming and personal denial.
I am transgender. It is clinically undeniable.
In order to achieve any peace in my life I have been force to make a very painful and irreversible decision, I intend to transition. That means the male exterior that you have known throughout our relationship will transition into the female gender I have been holding inside of me all these years.
This was as shocking to me as I know it is shocking to you. I cannot describe the incredible emotional suffering this has caused me and the incredible strain this has put on my wife and son.
I have tried every conceivable way to keep this from happening. Other than death or a life of continued despair and torment, there are none for me.
I would willingly take a bullet for my family but, unfortunately this is a slow death of endless slices taken against my emotional soul. My family would inevitably share in my suffering.
If you truly know me, you know that I despise drama. This is real and my only path of relief is through transition.
I know for those who have cruel hearts, they will enjoy the endless "Caitlyn Jenner" jokes that will follow. I would love to have them have the guts to say these slanders to my face and, regardless of my gender, kick their teeth in but we know them for the gutless, back-stabbers that they are.
I also know that many of you will not be able to process this or accept the reality of my situation. To you I wish a happy and peaceful life.
For everyone else, I am still me. I will continue to be your family, your friend and I will always be there if you need me. I am just correcting an error at birth that mistakenly mixed my gender and my sex.
If you are still reading this, I know this all seems confusing. It has taken me months of therapy, personal searching and self-examination to get to this point. I have attached a very brief summary of what I have learned. We all know the internet will provide you with an endless supply of more.
Sadly, I have been there for everyone who has ever needed me for the pain and suffering in their lives. Tragically, this is the only time in my life that I need others and I expect that many will lack the capacity or desire to be there for me. There are many times that I wished I had a mortal disease to spark the support that I need.
With gender dysphoria, I am expecting none.
I hope you can come to an understanding, I hope that we can continue our relationship, I hope that you can help and support me through this painful process and I hope we can continue to share the happiness that this life can provide.
From my heart,
Me