Quote from: Sarah1979 on September 06, 2018, 05:31:21 PM
I really think I need to pass before I can go full time.
So, probably, you will/can pass way before you think you will be passing. YOU will see "him" long after no one else can.
I posted this story in the Hobbies section but it applies here:
Today I did my SD County Sheriff's required CCW Safety training. ...
And, I had what might be my most fun/pleasant/encouraging "trans encounter" I have ever had!
We started with introductions. In my intro, I described my work, and then said, "Being transgender, and transitioning rather late, I have had issues with jerks who do not like my existence." The instructor said, "Wait a minute. What did you say?" I said, "About being transgender or the jerks?" He said, "You're transgender? I had no idea..." He then added, "I was a bit confused with the name on the application, but after talking with you, I knew I was talking with a woman."
So, he thought the voice was female, and further thought the voice matched the person. Oh boy...As well, perhaps more personal, I met on Skype with a co-worker who knows I am Transgender, but has never seen me in girl mode, and I was using my "female" voice, which he had never heard. I showed him the avatar picture to the left, which I think is good, but far from "passing." My co-worker said had he walked by me in an airport, he would not have recognized me, and would have walked right by thinking I was a random woman. As well, on the phone, he said he could hear that it was my inflections and wording, but that my voice was completely female sounding to him. He also said he was not being nice in any way. It was just the way it was.
So, the point of those two stories is that "passing" likely happens earlier than you might think. So, maybe, not waiting until you are certain you pass 100% would actually work...
And, paraphrasing Moni, You are the best you no matter what other people think...
Kate