Our journey from New York to Uruguay is somewhat similar to our journey from our binary genders to our authentic gender expression. We feel fear, worry, anxiety, frustration, confusion, disappointment and who-knows-what-else, which is ... unpleasant. My favorite response to these feelings is to feel them. But first I need to feel safe.
I do well when I ask myself, where do I feel safe. Now. Who do I feel safe with. What helps me feel safe.
Then, I feel safe feeling whatever I'm feeling. Those unpleasant feelings are messengers. I need to feel safe before I have the courage to feel them, name them, and judge whether they are useful. Otherwise, they shred my brain cells and make my innate wisdom inaccessible.
When I do this, then the good feelings erupt. They just swell up and carry me on to my next adventure with confidence, wonder, and clarity.
But first I have to find safety.
