RecentIy I have been having doubts as to whether I really am experiencing gender dysphoria or whether it is something else and I may have latched onto the possibility of being nonbinary because it was the only explanation I could find at the time.
I have a lot of issues with my secondary characterisitics, having periods made me want to rip out my insides and my moods would get so bad that I would want to kill myself, my mum had to take me to the GP because I would spend hours sobbing on the floor telling her I was disgusting and dirty. I hated anything sexual about my body and through all the years of therapy I've had, the question I was asked the most often was 'were you sexually abused?' but I have no recollection of such a thing happening to me (although I have experienced many other forms of trauma in the past and I'm aware that I don't remember all of them). All the questioning made me start to doubt my own memories so when my transgender friend mentioned asexuality and nonbinary gender identity I feel like I clung to the idea because it made me feel better having some kind of explanation for my feelings. My gp helped me to find a contraceptive pill that completely stopped my periods and I keep my weight purposely low to stop my chest growing, so now the majority of the distress I was experiencing with my body has dissipated. They only seem to resurface around the topic of sex or when I am at a higher body weight. I feel like rather than an issue with gender this is more of an issue with sex. I know I am terrified of sex and that my eating problems got worse during puberty. The lower my weight the less powerful these feelings are so I know it is feeding into my anorexia yet I've genuinely been feeling more comfortable in my body lately.
Unfortunately, I now feel guilty because my GP has put in a referral to a GIC and the waiting list is so long that I feel like I'll be taking up time that could be used for someone who really needs it, yet at the same time, I've been on the list for a year and a half already so it seems like a waste not to go when my appointment finally comes through. I would also like to find out why I experience these distressing feelings and other than this clinic I really don't know where else to try.
My GP thinks it is important I still go but I can't help feeling guilty, I feel like a fraud for telling people I'm nonbinary when I'm not really sure anymore.
I'm sorry this got very long, I am just feeling very confused at the moment and I'm not sure what the right thing to do is.