Yeah I don't believe being okay with your natal genitalia in any way invalidates your dysphoria. Everyone experiences dysphoria differently and I think a fair few of us have made a degree of peace with certain bits of ourselves over the years.
I know that for me, aside from my dislike for my breasts because they hurt me and get in the way and ruin the cut of my clothing, my body shape doesn't actually cause me much distress. My dysphoria is more biochemical, in that I feel like my femininising hormones are poisioning me and slowly killing me. I don't look in a mirror so much and see a stranger, I used to, but since starting to present outwardly as more masculine by cutting my hair and wearing clothes I actually want to wear i'm recognising myself more and more and a lot of that who is that stranger? feeling is gone.
I mean heck, I can even look at my breasts which I hate and not feel that disgusted by them, just sorta "some day i'm getting rid of you suckers"
IN my case the thing that causes me the MOST distress is my ovaries and the hormones they produce, and the havoc those hormones wreak on my body.
When i'm in that week where I have no pms symptoms or anything I feel mostly OK, least I can plod along without wanting to tear my skin off, but then the pms hits and it brings a wave of dysphoria and despair and this real sense of being trapped in this body.
If I didn't have the issue with my hormones, maybe i'd be able to live happily enough as a masculine woman, but as it stands I feel much like a diesel engine running on petrol. Sure I can run, but it's doing long term damage and eventually will stop working.
I admit i've always sort of had this... detatched sort of relationship with my bottom half. A sort of scientific medical view of it lacking any degree of affection or real ownership. it just.. IS.. kinda like I have a nose, or a chin, or a belly button. I tend not to think about any of them unless they're causing me pain. So you just sort of ignore it.
I find my physical feminine traits far easier to ignore than my biochemical ones. I hate the way estrogen makes me feel so for me, that's where most of my dysphoria comes from. I feel like my body is WRONG, but the priority is fixing the fuel problem.
once that happens maybe I will start really hating my physical traits more, I dunno, but right now they don't really cause me that much distress. They just... exist and are a mild annoyance (okay sometimes a major annoyance in relation to the boobs but still, just annoying rather than upsetting)
Point is, we all experience dysphoria differently. There's no "right" way.
