Danielle's Continuing Life Adventures

[Dances With Trees]

I so hope you're safely home! Perhaps you meant cruise ship when you said flight. Thinking of you, Danielle.

[Courtney G]

I hope the rest of your travels went smoothly, Danielle. Like the others, I'm looking forward to your update and hoping everything went well.

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

Everyone... Thank You for your very kind messages.

I did finally arrive safely to my home after a very, very long day(s) of driving from
Eastern Montana to the Seattle airport to catch my plane to home. The plane was on time and
I landed in Anchorage in the evening so I stayed overnight and in the morning to take a
small plane flight home. 
I was very tired and stayed close to my bed the next day.
           
My time and visit with my immediate family was not particularly successful
with my parents but there were some good moments with extended family members and
my old childhood school friends.
 
I really tried hard to repair my relationship with my dad but to no avail.  My Dad's
health is failing and I do not wish to have any regrets when he is no longer with us. 
He will most likely be "gone" 😟(sad face) when I go to visit there again in the future.   

Things with my mother went a little bit better but still not completely good. 
I did have a good visit with family friends and several of my childhood friends, many
of them remained quite accepting and supportive of me. Some that I had not yet met after
I transitioned and went Full Time were very curious about what is a trans-woman.
When in private conversations with them there were all sort of related question as
you might imagine... some I answered honestly and others I avoided.

As many of us talk about here on the Forum, getting acceptance from "family" can be
a challenge for certain.  Transitioning is not for the timid. 
I will try to post more updates in the future.
 
THANK YOU again for watching and participating in the Forum while I was away. 
You all are very much appreciated.

I will be certainly posting more when I have time.

Many HUGS, my best wishes to you, and Thank You for contributing to my Blog.
      ❤️ 
HUGS,  Danielle [Northern Star Girl
  The Forum Administrator  Direct Email: alaskandanielle@yahoo.com
 
NOTE: As always... please feel free to post here on this Blog Thread with
your comments and thoughts... nothing reasonable is off-topic. 
Consider my Blog thread to be a kind of "community gathering place" where we can meet,
greet, exchange comments and thoughts, and have conversations.

[Sephirah]

Danielle, you can only do what you can do, okay? And what you've done is probably above and beyond what most folks would do. So don't ever feel bad, or guilty that things didn't go the way you wanted.

Live your life the way that's true to you, sweetie. Your family is a part of you, but they don't get to decide you. You honour them with all the good you do in this world and that's what you should focus on. I am massively proud of you. And you've helped countless people you've never even met... just because of who you are. That is the legacy your parents have had on you, sweetie.

I promise you that what you do in this world inspires, and encourages so many people. And that is a reflection on who you are as a person. Part of that comes from your parents, whether they want it or not. You are beautiful, and kind, and supportive. You are intuitive, and gentle, and wise. Whether you get acceptance from your family or not, Danielle, who you are is someone you should be very, very proud of. That you did this says everything about you.

Keep being you, Danielle. And people will either come around or they won't. But you honour them either way. Never forget that. <3

[Emma1017]

Danielle, I am so sorry that your dad could not see you as the wonderful person you are, but I am glad that you tried.  He has no right to leave you feeling guilty for not trying. By making that effort, you have freed yourself of any regret for not trying.

I absolutely agree with Sephirah:

"I promise you that what you do in this world inspires and encourages so many people. And that is a reflection on who you are as a person."


A very warm hug,

Emma

[Lori Dee ✅]

Sorry to hear that it didn't go as well as it could have. I know how that feels, as you are aware.

As we tell the members here on the forums, we can't live our lives according to the whims of others. We can't force acceptance on anyone, nor should we. That is their decision to make, not ours.

Big Hugs!

We are glad to have you back.

[ChrissyRyan]

Danielle,


So sorry about your mom and dad's response.

You tried.

You explained to the curious.

You had some acceptance.

Hugs,

Chrissy

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

  @Sephirah  @ChrissyRyan  @Lori Dee @Emma1017
THANK YOU for your very kind responses...

Regarding my visit with my parents in Montana, it went kinda  OK but certainly some issues that were not
resolved and will probably never will be.  When the visit was over I felt somewhat defeated. 
I attempted to stay positive as much as possible...

HUGS, Danielle

[ChrissyRyan]

Danielle,


I am confident that if one keeps a positive attitude that helps tremendously.
Perhaps some time with your friends will give you some uplifts.

Chrissy

[EllenW]

Danielle

Sorry to hear that you were unable to build that bridge with your father. You should be proud that you have made such a concentrated effort to make a connection with your patients.

Bless you for all you do to support others here on Susan's

Ellen

[Sephirah]

I understand why you feel this way. But Danielle, we can only be responsible for the choices we make in our lives. Everything else, we have to leave to other people who have to decide the choices they make. You can't make people accept or understand, if they don't want to.

The only thing you can do is be the best you that you can be.

You do that every day.

Keep being who you are, okay? You are beautiful. Your smile is infectious. The energy you have to make the world a better place is second to none. Live your life and base how you feel on that, sweetie. You are a credit to the world. Whether others see it or not. The only person you owe a life to... is you. And you have given so much of yourself to other people... be proud, Danielle. You are rather amazing and have a lot to be proud of.

Take that from someone who has known you for a long, long time. Since you first came here.

[Charlotte_Ringwood]

I'm so sorry to hear it didn't go as you'd hoped. You tried and I'm sure you put all your heart into it. I guess giving this your all and the outcome, I understand your choice of the word defeated.

I wish life was neater and tidier for us all. That everyone had an open mind and open heart. I totally agree with the sentiments to stay positive, but I also know that's so hard at times...sometimes you just don't have the energy to feel positive. I'd say that's OK. Just take the time you need and be kind to yourself. You're amazing for sure.

[davina61]

They should be happy that you have found happiness ,some folks will never change so all you can do is show them love. Positive thoughts and trust the universe my dear XX

[Pema]

Danielle, I'm sorry your visit didn't go as hoped. People grow and accept change at different paces, and that makes it difficult at times to stay connected to people we love and whose role in our lives we value.

I hope that eventually they'll come around and recognize what they're missing, because you're worth it.