Danielle's Continuing Life Adventures

[EllenW]

Danielle,

Happy to hear that your mother had a nice Mother's Day. How is your father doing?

My thoughts and prayers are for him and your family.

Ellen

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

Regarding my recent trip back to see my parents in far Eastern Montana, I didn't
mention how things went with this trip visiting with my Dad. 
My previous postings around the Forum described the strained relationship that
I have with him.

In the past since I began my transition in in 2015, my Dad would not talk to me or
engage in conversation and that has basically continued to this day... 
... very sad, but I keep trying with phone calls, visits, and cards and letters that I send to him.
His health is not good and I do not want any regrets when he is no longer with us.

Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

[Stottie Girl]

I'm very sorry to hear that Danielle, I had high hopes he would have wanted to clear the air and embrace you once again. If the worst happens, at least you know you tried everything to rebuild the connection. It was absolutely the right thing you did by visiting. I would have done exactly the same thing.

I'm sure deep down he loves you, I don't think you can just turn that off, but old men can be so stubborn.

Sarah xx

[Lori Dee ✅]

I was hoping for better, but I have a similar situation at home. You are doing the right thing by staying in touch, visiting when you can, and letting him feel your love. Beyond that, it is up to him to accept you or not. You should not have any regrets because you have done all that you can do to keep the lines of communication open. Hopefully, he will still come around. Until then, I know the pain.

Big Hugs!

Lori

[Rochelle]

It seems like you can only do what you are doing, being available and hopefully he recognizes this before it is too late.

Hugs

Rochelle

[Dawn Kellie]

I unfortunately understand the hurt. I have 2 kids from my first marriage that I have not talked to or heard from in 15ish years. Just keep reaching out. It doesn't make it better but trying is better than brooding

[Sephirah]

Regarding my recent trip back to see my parents in far Eastern Montana, I didn't
mention how things went with this trip visiting with my Dad. 
My previous postings around the Forum described the strained relationship that
I have with him.

In the past since I began my transition in in 2015, my Dad would not talk to me or
engage in conversation and that has basically continued to this day... 
... very sad, but I keep trying with phone calls, visits, and cards and letters that I send to him.
His health is not good and I do not want any regrets when he is no longer with us.

Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

This makes me quite sad, Danielle. Because if he could get past the preconceptions and prejudice, he would see he has a daughter that would make any father proud. It's my hope that there's still time. And maybe he will realise what's actually important to him. His child. If that doesn't happen though, don't ever feel like it's because you didn't do enough, okay?

You have nothing to regret, sweetie. You can't make people accept you. And any relationship is a two way thing. You don't have to carry any kind of guilt, okay? Sometimes you just have to accept that they are who they are. You are a credit to your parents every single day. With every act of kindness here, and in the world. You can't make people listen who don't want to hear. All you can do is put your song out in the world knowing those people had a hand in writing it. Let that be his legacy.

*massive hugs*

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

@Sephirah
Dear Lauren:
I very much appreciate your very kind message.   I felt better the instant that I read it

       THANK YOU

Hugs, Danielle

[Sephirah]

*extra big hugs*

You deal with a lot, sweetie. You are a bright light in the world. I have known you a long time and... you have always been a force for good. To want to make the world a better place. To be the kindness you want to see in others. I have the utmost respect and admiration for you... and if some people don't see that... that's a them issue, Danielle. You have gone above and beyond so many times. Take solace in that. In who you are, okay?

No regrets, honey. You make everyone proud who has had the privilege to know you. Even if they won't admit it.

[Gina P]

Sorry to hear about your father. Family can be the toughest to deal with. My heart goes out to you and your family. 
Big Hug, Gina 

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

Dear readers, followers and Forum friends:
I am in Seattle again this week... been flying there frequently lately to re-visit
my Neurosurgeon that did surgery on my back 7 years ago when I had hurt my back when
I fell on ice on the sidewalk in front of my CPA office.   

I may have an announcement soon about MAYBE selling my home and moving here or near my
parents to give them needed in-home care.  My dad is getting worse and my mom is not
doing well lately and they can not keep up with their home and ranch/property upkeep tasks. 
No nearby family that is willing to help, very sad but true. 
I seemingly am their choice for assistance. 
My CPA business is in demand anywhere and I am qualified anywhere in the USA. 
My sweetie, Toothfairy is seriously considering moving with me too. 
Her Dental Hygienist job is also something that she can do anywhere.   

All of this is a "big maybe" and nothing is anywhere near being decided yet as
I have a lot of thinking to do.
My head is spinning.

This is not firm, I am just exploring this in my mind which is spinning along with my head.

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

cc: @Devlyn  @Lori Dee  @Jessica_Rose  @Sarah B  @Mariah  @Charlotte Kitty

[Rochelle]

My heart is hurting for you, for the uncertainty of what you're facing. I do hope that everything works out for you in a good way that is what you want and need. Thoughts and prayers for you. 💚

[Stottie Girl]

That is potentially BIG news Danielle. You built such a wonderful life for yourself up there. If your father does pass, would your mother maybe consider coming to you instead? Sell up the ranch and live the good life in Alaska with you? A ranch is going to be way too much for her to handle on her own and I can't see you being able to juggle your accountancy with helping running a ranch?

I'm sure neither of them would want you to sacrifice all that you have achieved.

If you want to do it though then that's a different story. It's a tough position to be in. My heart goes out to you.

[davina61]

Hugs for you my dear, follow your heart and I am sure the universe will look after you.

[Devlyn ✅]

Dear readers, followers and Forum friends:
I am in Seattle again this week... been flying there frequently lately to re-visit
my Neurosurgeon that did surgery on my back 7 years ago when I had hurt my back when
I fell on ice on the sidewalk in front of my CPA office.   

I may have an announcement soon about MAYBE selling my home and moving here or near my
parents to give them needed in-home care.  My dad is getting worse and my mom is not
doing well lately and they can not keep up with their home and ranch/property upkeep tasks. 
No nearby family that is willing to help, very sad but true. 
I seemingly am their choice for assistance. 
My CPA business is in demand anywhere and I am qualified anywhere in the USA. 
My sweetie, Toothfairy is seriously considering moving with me too. 
Her Dental Hygienist job is also something that she can do anywhere.   

All of this is a "big maybe" and nothing is anywhere near being decided yet as
I have a lot of thinking to do.
My head is spinning.

This is not firm, I am just exploring this in my mind which is spinning along with my head.

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

cc: @Devlyn  @Lori Dee  @Jessica_Rose  @Sarah B  @Mariah  @Charlotte Kitty

Big hug! We're both on the move and flying over French speaking countries quite a bit. 🙂

I know you'll be able to come up with a plan. My thoughts are with you and your loved ones.

Hugs, Devlyn

[EllenW]

Danielle,

First, I hope you visit to your doctor it well and your back is getting better.

Second, I am sorry to hear about your parents and their need for support. I fully understand your situation as my late wife and I were my mother-in-law caretaker. We were the only ones in her family willing to take care her.

My thoughts and prayers are for you, your sweetie and your parents.

Ellen

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Sending lots of love and positive thoughts. Sounds like some very tough decisions, but you're definitely strong enough to make the right ones and follow through with it x

[Pema]

Danielle, I'm sorry about all the complications. Whatever you decide, I hope it unfolds smoothly. If you decide to go south of Seattle, I may be able to lend a helping hand. I know you'll keep us posted. You are very much in our hearts and our minds.

[tgirlamg]

Danielle!..

Changes like you speak of can feel so daunting but, don't let it overwhelm you... your proper path will reveal itself and all shall be well...

Sending the best thoughts and prayers for you and your parents!

Hugs,

Ashley 💕🙏👩

[Lori Dee ✅]

Danielle,

I am sorry to hear of this situation, but I understand. I have always admired the way you make big decisions and I am certain that when you decide, it will be the right choice.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Big Hugs!