Danielle's Continuing Life Adventures

[EllenW]

Danielle,

Happy to hear that your mother had a nice Mother's Day. How is your father doing?

My thoughts and prayers are for him and your family.

Ellen

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

Regarding my recent trip back to see my parents in far Eastern Montana, I didn't
mention how things went with this trip visiting with my Dad. 
My previous postings around the Forum described the strained relationship that
I have with him.

In the past since I began my transition in in 2015, my Dad would not talk to me or
engage in conversation and that has basically continued to this day... 
... very sad, but I keep trying with phone calls, visits, and cards and letters that I send to him.
His health is not good and I do not want any regrets when he is no longer with us.

Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

[Stottie Girl]

I'm very sorry to hear that Danielle, I had high hopes he would have wanted to clear the air and embrace you once again. If the worst happens, at least you know you tried everything to rebuild the connection. It was absolutely the right thing you did by visiting. I would have done exactly the same thing.

I'm sure deep down he loves you, I don't think you can just turn that off, but old men can be so stubborn.

Sarah xx

[Lori Dee ✅]

I was hoping for better, but I have a similar situation at home. You are doing the right thing by staying in touch, visiting when you can, and letting him feel your love. Beyond that, it is up to him to accept you or not. You should not have any regrets because you have done all that you can do to keep the lines of communication open. Hopefully, he will still come around. Until then, I know the pain.

Big Hugs!

Lori

[Rochelle]

It seems like you can only do what you are doing, being available and hopefully he recognizes this before it is too late.

Hugs

Rochelle

[Dawn Kellie]

I unfortunately understand the hurt. I have 2 kids from my first marriage that I have not talked to or heard from in 15ish years. Just keep reaching out. It doesn't make it better but trying is better than brooding

[Sephirah]

Regarding my recent trip back to see my parents in far Eastern Montana, I didn't
mention how things went with this trip visiting with my Dad. 
My previous postings around the Forum described the strained relationship that
I have with him.

In the past since I began my transition in in 2015, my Dad would not talk to me or
engage in conversation and that has basically continued to this day... 
... very sad, but I keep trying with phone calls, visits, and cards and letters that I send to him.
His health is not good and I do not want any regrets when he is no longer with us.

Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

This makes me quite sad, Danielle. Because if he could get past the preconceptions and prejudice, he would see he has a daughter that would make any father proud. It's my hope that there's still time. And maybe he will realise what's actually important to him. His child. If that doesn't happen though, don't ever feel like it's because you didn't do enough, okay?

You have nothing to regret, sweetie. You can't make people accept you. And any relationship is a two way thing. You don't have to carry any kind of guilt, okay? Sometimes you just have to accept that they are who they are. You are a credit to your parents every single day. With every act of kindness here, and in the world. You can't make people listen who don't want to hear. All you can do is put your song out in the world knowing those people had a hand in writing it. Let that be his legacy.

*massive hugs*