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KathyLauren

Thank you, Danielle ( @Northern Star Girl ) and @Lori Dee !  My actual birthday is classified information, but I am happy to accept your good wishes on my "Internet birthday".  🙂
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate

ChrissyRyan

Happy birthday Kathy!


Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 

davina61

AS its not your proper birthday I will say Happy Anniversary. XXX
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Stottie Girl

Quote from: KathyLauren on March 29, 2026, 07:43:18 PMThank you, Danielle ( @Northern Star Girl ) and @Lori Dee !  My actual birthday is classified information, but I am happy to accept your good wishes on my "Internet birthday".  🙂
So you're like the Kings and Queens then? You have a real birthday and an official one! Happy Birthday to you Kathy, which ever one it is!
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Pema

Happy Internet Birthday, Kathy. Congratulations on another year around the web.
"Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not."
 - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If you evade suffering you also evade the chance of joy. Pleasure you may get, or pleasures, but you will not be fulfilled. You will not know what it is to come home."
 - Ursula K. Le Guin

Dances With Trees

Happy Birthday, Kathy!

tgirlamg

Happy Internet Birthday Beautiful Sister! 🎊🎉🎉🎉💕😀👍💕🎉🎉🎉🎊
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

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Charlotte Kitty

Happy internet birthday Kathy! Having 2 birthdays, that can't be so bad 🙂
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KathyLauren

#68
Thanks for all those "internet birthday" wishes.  Date of birth is frequently used as a security question, so I make a point not to use the real one online.  The year is correct, because it is useful for people to know my age, but that's all.

Seeing Sarah ( @Stottie Girl ) talking about her upcoming move reminded me that I haven't talked about mine.  This will be our fifth move.  It had better be the last, because we are both getting too old for this cr@p. 

The place we are in just isn't right for us.  For our last move, we wanted to get down off the mountain (just a hill really, but the mountain road was right some nasty in winter), and we had already sold our place, so we were under time pressure to buy whatever was available: this place.  The house is nice enough, modern and lacking character, but structurally sound, and the grounds (1.8 acres) are nice.  But it is on a steep hillside.  We replaced the nasty-in-winter mountain road with a nasty-in-winter driveway.  The major highway that runs the length of Nova Scotia is only half a kilometre away, and there is a major interchange at the bottom of four hills.  No matter which direction you go, you are first going downhill towards the interchange then uphill away from it. We hear jake brakes and roaring diesels all the time.  We are on the outskirts of one of the Valley's major towns, and the people are townies: nice enough, but not very interesting. 

So we have had our sights set on a little-known, quiet stretch of road down at the quiet end of the Valley.  It is the old-old highway.  It was at one time the main access route, until it was bypassed in the 1920s, and it became the old highway.  Then they built the "big highway" in the 1990s, bypassing everything, so now it is a forgotten byway.  But there are four quite active community halls in that stretch of road.  We have been lurking at events there and discovered that the people there are our kind of people.  Old hippies!!

Four moves ago, we lived on an island off the coast of British Columbia.  The people there were mostly old hippies: back-to-the-land-ers and ex-American draft-dodgers from the Vietnam era.  Because of the limited access (an expensive ferry), people there were quite self-sufficient.  The original founders of Greenpeace had a commune there, which later became a Buddhist retreat centre.  After moving around too much and learning who we are not, we realize that those are our people.

And the people down on Highway 201 are the same.  There was even a book published a couple of years ago, called "Far Out" about the back-to-the-land-ers in the area.  We have already joined a Save Our Old Forests group, and attended a pie auction.  We watch the schedules for all the community halls in the area, and there is a lot going on: yoga classes, meditation sessions, environmental groups, pot-luck dinners.  There are quite a few organic farms and orchards all around.

The house we have bought (conditional on selling our current house in a reasonable time) is 153 years old.  It has been in one family all this time, passed down from one generation to the next.  We will be the first non-family owners.  The current owner's father did a lot of major structural renovations in the 1980s, so it is internally in better shape than most of the houses in that area.  Unfortunately, the exterior needs some TLC, but we are hoping that the repairs won't cost too much.

So now, we are waiting for an offer on our current house.  We have had six showings so far, and had only one offer, which was garbage.  We might have to lower our asking price.  And we are dreading all the packing and unpacking.  We still haven't worked out how to move our three cats.  We can pick up one and stuff him into a carrier, but the other two are not pick-up-able.  And we don't know how to keep them from freaking out while the movers come and go.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate

Jessica_Rose

Moving is rarely a pleasurable experience. I hope you get a reasonable offer soon, and that your move goes smoothly.

Love always -- Jessica Rose
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Stottie Girl

Quote from: KathyLauren on Today at 07:48:39 AMThanks for all those "internet birthday" wishes.  Date of birth is frequently used as a security question, so I make a point not to use the real one online.  The year is correct, because it is useful for people to know my age, but that's all.

Seeing Sarah ( @Stottie Girl ) talking about her upcoming move reminded me that I haven't talked about mine.  This will be our fifth move.  It had better be the last, because we are both getting too old for this cr@p. 

The place we are in just isn't right for us.  For our last move, we wanted to get down off the mountain (just a hill really, but the mountain road was right some nasty in winter), and we had already sold our place, so we were under time pressure to buy whatever was available: this place.  The house is nice enough, modern and lacking character, but structurally sound, and the grounds (1.8 acres) are nice.  But it is on a steep hillside.  We replaced the nasty-in-winter mountain road with a nasty-in-winter driveway.  The major highway that runs the length of Nova Scotia is only half a kilometre away, and there is a major interchange at the bottom of four hills.  No matter which direction you go, you are first going downhill towards the interchange then uphill away from it. We hear jake brakes and roaring diesels all the time.  We are on the outskirts of one of the Valley's major towns, and the people are townies: nice enough, but not very interesting. 

So we have had our sights set on a little-known, quiet stretch of road down at the quiet end of the Valley.  It is the old-old highway.  It was at one time the main access route, until it was bypassed in the 1920s, and it became the old highway.  Then they built the "big highway" in the 1990s, bypassing everything, so now it is a forgotten byway.  But there are four quite active community halls in that stretch of road.  We have been lurking at events there and discovered that the people there are our kind of people.  Old hippies!!

Four moves ago, we lived on an island off the coast of British Columbia.  The people there were mostly old hippies: back-to-the-land-ers and ex-American draft-dodgers from the Vietnam era.  Because of the limited access (an expensive ferry), people there were quite self-sufficient.  The original founders of Greenpeace had a commune there, which later became a Buddhist retreat centre.  After moving around too much and learning who we are not, we realize that those are our people.

And the people down on Highway 201 are the same.  There was even a book published a couple of years ago, called "Far Out" about the back-to-the-land-ers in the area.  We have already joined a Save Our Old Forests group, and attended a pie auction.  We watch the schedules for all the community halls in the area, and there is a lot going on: yoga classes, meditation sessions, environmental groups, pot-luck dinners.  There are quite a few organic farms and orchards all around.

The house we have bought (conditional on selling our current house in a reasonable time) is 153 years old.  It has been in one family all this time, passed down from one generation to the next.  We will be the first non-family owners.  The current owner's father did a lot of major structural renovations in the 1980s, so it is internally in better shape than most of the houses in that area.  Unfortunately, the exterior needs some TLC, but we are hoping that the repairs won't cost too much.

So now, we are waiting for an offer on our current house.  We have had six showings so far, and had only one offer, which was garbage.  We might have to lower our asking price.  And we are dreading all the packing and unpacking.  We still haven't worked out how to move our three cats.  We can pick up one and stuff him into a carrier, but the other two are not pick-up-able.  And we don't know how to keep them from freaking out while the movers come and go.
Where you are going sounds like heaven to me Kathy! I love the idea of a more sort of off grid, hippy style existance, I think I was born in the wrong era at times! I have been to several buddhist retreats over the years (used do do work for one actually) and they seem wonderfully serene communities.

It's funny that the phrase "townies" is used over there, it is used in the UK too. When the townies move into rural communities they won't engage with locals or the local activities. Usually pleasant enough to talk to but not interested in community at all. They tend to be shunned by the locals in the end.

My current house is 106 years old so you will have me beat on that one!

I hope all goes well with your move, these things rarely do but I've been lucky so far so fingers crossed.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Pema

Thank you for the update, Kathy. The (old?) new-new place sounds great. I look forward to photos when you're semi-settled. Please try to get a shot or two of the observatory move. That alone has to be a serious project.

I hope the current house sells soon and at a reasonable price. Then I hope your new home will be everything you both want.
"Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not."
 - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If you evade suffering you also evade the chance of joy. Pleasure you may get, or pleasures, but you will not be fulfilled. You will not know what it is to come home."
 - Ursula K. Le Guin

KathyLauren

Quote from: Stottie Girl on Today at 09:18:43 AMIt's funny that the phrase "townies" is used over there, it is used in the UK too.

Ha-ha!  I'm not sure it is used over here.  I suspect I picked it up from watching Vera or something similar on the telly.  (Which is another British-ism, although it is known and understood here.)
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Stottie Girl

Quote from: KathyLauren on Today at 10:32:55 AMHa-ha!  I'm not sure it is used over here.  I suspect I picked it up from watching Vera or something similar on the telly.  (Which is another British-ism, although it is known and understood here.)
You will have to introduce it into the local vernacular then Kathy! If you watched Vera, that is basically where I live. It's filmed all around Northumberland and Tyne & Wear.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

KathyLauren

I'm a CFA, so I am not up on all the local vernacular.  I'll try a few that I do know...

CFA / Come-From-Away: noun, "someone who is not from around here".
some: adverb, modifying an adjective, "a lot", as in "That pie was some good."
right some: superlative of "some", above, as in "That pie was right some good."
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Stottie Girl

Quote from: KathyLauren on Today at 12:10:27 PMI'm a CFA, so I am not up on all the local vernacular.  I'll try a few that I do know...

CFA / Come-From-Away: noun, "someone who is not from around here".
some: adverb, modifying an adjective, "a lot", as in "That pie was some good."
right some: superlative of "some", above, as in "That pie was right some good."

You know that almost sounds a bit yorkshire @Sephirah would probably be a better judge but I'm sure they would say something is right good as in "ooh that's right good lass" though it might be "reet good". Not sure.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Sephirah

I mean, at one point we would say "Right". Not "Some", though. You're right, Sarah, in that the dialect would be more like "Reet" or "Reyt", haha.

When I was a kid we would say something was "Right good!." Or "Reet gud!" haha.

Now it's kind of mutated to things like "Proper nice".

My accent has been somewhat ruined (gentrified) by the Navy though. I would just say something is "lovely".

I am ashamed I missed your birthday, Kathy. A very late happy birthday, sweetie! <3
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KathyLauren

Here's some more vernacular that is generically Canadian, rather than Nova Scotian:

double-double: A Tim Horton's coffee with two creams and two sugars.
Tim Horton's: A nationwide coffee shop chain.
Elbows Up: Originally a hockey saying meaning that we aren't going to take any guff from the opposing team.  Since 2025, it means we aren't going to take any annexation guff from the USA.
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KathyLauren

Quote from: Sephirah on Today at 01:13:07 PMI am ashamed I missed your birthday, Kathy. A very late happy birthday, sweetie! <3

No worries, it's the thought that counts.  The timing is arbitrary anyway, so your choice for my Internet birthday is just as valid as mine.  So thanks!

"Right good" definitely could be Nova Scotian, too.
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Stottie Girl

Quote from: Sephirah on Today at 01:13:07 PMI mean, at one point we would say "Right". Not "Some", though. You're right, Sarah, in that the dialect would be more like "Reet" or "Reyt", haha.

When I was a kid we would say something was "Right good!." Or "Reet gud!" haha.

Now it's kind of mutated to things like "Proper nice".

My accent has been somewhat ruined (gentrified) by the Navy though. I would just say something is "lovely".

I am ashamed I missed your birthday, Kathy. A very late happy birthday, sweetie! <3
I'm not going to start quoting the Geordie dialect people will think I'm from another planet never mind a different language ha ha! I'm sure you will concur!
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!
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