I want to start by saying that I completely respect that this site is provided by generous people, and donations seem entirely appropriate — I was happy to make one. The people who run it get to set whatever standards they want. I'm a guest here, and I'll follow the rules. I'm extremely grateful to have a site like Susan's Place.
I also understand that moderating language in an international community is complicated. A word that seems completely harmless in one country can be vulgar or offensive in another. So I do appreciate that the moderators are trying to create a space that works for people from different cultures and backgrounds.
My preference, though, would be to focus more on how language is being used than on whether a particular word or abbreviation appears at all. Sometimes very broad filters can catch language that clearly isn't intended as profanity, and that can make the rules feel more restrictive than they need to be. To me, there is an important difference between language used to insult or attack someone and language used casually, humorously, or for emphasis. Civility matters much more to me than linguistic purity.
As someone fairly immersed in technology, I also understand that what I'm describing is much more difficult than having an automated filter do the work.
I appreciate that there is a forum here for discussing this. I've done some moderation of similar sites, and it's always useful to get user feedback. Ultimately, though, the people who pay for and manage this site have to feel comfortable with the community they're maintaining, regardless of whether someone like me would draw the line differently.
I'll always follow the rules. Frankly, I find it kind of mind-blowing that people deliberately play games trying to sneak in language they already know isn't allowed.
