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We're in Toronto. I thought there wouldn't be any snow here, that it would always be perfectly clean and dry, just like in those picture-perfect photos. The city is just as gloomy as St. Petersburg - it's as if we hadn't even moved.


How do you stay warm when the fire is your enemy? When the lights go out and the world is plunged into cold,  fire will no longer be a salvation - the smoke will give away your location, the light will attract trouble, and the firewood will run out before you've had a chance to get used to the darkness. But you already have a stove - your own body, a small, stubborn furnace that runs on food, anger, and trash. The question isn't how to light a fire, the question is how not to let yourself to lose heat. The cold is just a thief, it steals your warmth. The secret to survival isn't to generate more and more heat but how to preserve what we already have, not to give it away where no one needs it. You just need to plug the leaks, and so the night drags on, the cold shoves at the door, trying to squeeze through the gaps in your clothes, through the mud, through the thin walls of your shelter, but you're no longer just a victim shivering in the dark and hoping for a miracle, you're layered up, you've buried yourself in trash, turning it into armor, you look ridiculous, but at least you're alive, your body still warms, your brain still thinks. Don't have matches? No gas? It doesn't matter, you're not surviving on a fire, but on your stubborn. If you open your eyes in the morning, it's not a coincidence or luck - it means you did everything right all night long, you didn't just survive the cold, you outsmarted it.

No, I'm not handing out survival guides for the apocalypse, the cold night is your path in life, and your warmth is your soul, my friends.

P.S. The photo is too large again. I had to crop it.
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Jessica_Rose

I'm still shocked that you were able to flee! Although it may feel as though you traded one gloomy place for another, at least now you have more options. I expect there are many more challenges ahead, but now you are closer to people who can help.

Love always -- Jess
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CaringWhisper

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on March 29, 2026, 03:09:32 PMI'm still shocked that you were able to flee!
We didn't run away, Jess, we just endured a difficult period and didn't break down. Basically, there was no real reason to hold me accountable - they just wanted to make a fool of me, but they didn't succeed. Perhaps my story will help someone, always keep your cool, as my late father taught me.
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Quote from: Jessica_Rose on March 29, 2026, 03:09:32 PMAlthough it may feel as though you traded one gloomy place for another, at least now you have more options. I expect there are many more challenges ahead, but now you are closer to people who can help.
Yes. Even if Canada isn't the right fit for us, it opens up a world of opportunities and pathways to Europe. In any case, Toronto is better. Besides, I feel right at home in places like that. I grew up near St. Petersburg, and the gloom actually gives me strength.

I not need help anymore Jess. We're totaly fine.
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Dances With Trees

Better is good. And it's good to hear your voice. Hugs.

Lori Dee

Glad you are safe.

Some people build small fires and stand close to keep warm.

Americans build big bonfires and stay warm by hauling more firewood!

I have ancestors buried in Toronto. They arrived from England and settled in Schomberg, which is mostly agricultural. I hope you can find a place to settle in where you can truly feel at home.

Thank you for the update.
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I've been feeling incredibly apathetic this week. A close friend of mine, her sick son is about to be killed. Mobilization. In Russia, there are the following categories of military fitness, where military service is mandatory. Category A – fit for service, B – fit for service with minor restrictions, V – exempt from military service due to illness but subject to mobilization, D – temporarily unfit, e.g., spinal injury (Recovery is allowed for no more than 6 months, after which mobilization follows), E – unfit, this category includes either blind or paralyzed individuals. My child was able to leave because she was still young, but her son has turned 18. They ordered his son to appear for a data verification procedure, then barred him from leaving, and referred him to a medical board, where the doctors changed his fitness status without even looking at him. Subsequently, the unit commander signed a military contract in his name.They are already sending Group V the front, where they have no chance of survival. A new wave of mobilization will be announced on April 25. What could we have done to bring about regime change? Iran's apparatus of repression is much smaller, but even there, the protests achieved nothing, just as the bombings did. Putin has 2 million National Guard troops alone excluding the military, the equivalent of Iran's IRGC, which numbers around 300,000. I wouldn't say I'm broken, I just don't notice the world around me. My child will be able to adapt and change her mindset, but I probably never will. Everything around me seems to fly by in fast motion. I look at them, the people around me, and before my eyes I see the innocent on both sides, dying in the mud and blood, gazing up at the sky in this criminal war. I remember my friend's son, he looked so young, delicate, and frail. Putin won't stop until he's killed everyone. There will be a mass mobilization on April 25. Here we are, enjoying life, while he's over there and hundreds of thousands like him, guilty of nothing more than being born in the wrong country. As of now, it is known that two children, aged 14 and 16, have been sent to a general security prison for minors aged 14 to 18, according to the verdict for terrorist activities. According to their mothers, they are beaten and humiliated there. The last message from one of them was: "Mommy, I think I'm going to die soon." To put it simply, I feel the same way as the Iraq War veterans who can't go back to normal life, but their war ended long ago, while mine hasn't. Some people are born to live, while others are born to die a horrible death, with no chance of survival. No one will ever understand me, I'll never be part of the society around me, simply because I don't want to.
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Stottie Girl

I cannot even begin to know the horror you and ordinary Russians must be feeling right now. Ukrainians too. It is a meat grinder, the reports of casualty figures on the Russian side are difficult to comprehend. It is like it was in WW2.

I am old enough to remember the fall of the Berlin Wall and the collapse of the Soviet union so I have seen first hand that change, however implausible, is possible though it often comes at a high price.

I also remember those few years afterwards when we thought the West and Russia would be re-united as friends instead of the fear of the cold war and mutual destruction. There were huge rock concerts, Dance music parties, the optimisim was off the scale. We saw that the Russian people were exactly the same as us so what had we been facing off against each other for so long?

It is the same now. The Russian kids being thrown into the hell of Ukraine don't want to be there, this is not their war and the rest of the world knows it but Putin is a madman. I just want all the senseless killing to stop and for us to go back to those glorious years.

Russia should have been invited to join the EU, we should have strengthend our bonds but we are further away than ever now because of politics. It makes me so sad. I hope your friends son can make it out in one piece.
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Sephirah

Whisper... you can't take the weight of the world on your shoulders, sweetie. You can't.

You have to sometimes focus on what you can do. Not what you wish you could do. That will drive you insane.

What you've described is horrible. And it's my sincerest hope that these blowhard, pressed-suit, sycophant laden morons will one day be ejected from all spheres of the world which purport to care about them. Aspiration is one thing... pick the right role model.

And I know you. I know if there was something you could do to change that, you would have given yourself to change that.

I wish it were so. But listen, don't feel bad that you and Kitty Kat got out of there. Please don't ever feel that way.
Natura nihil frustra facit.

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Charlotte Kitty

This is such a harrowing account of the reality which exists in yours and your friends lives, and I'm truely saddened that people are having to endure such pain. Unlike the daily news to which I'm largely unaffected, your first hand account, I can't get out of my head. I still can't comprehend that in this day and age, humans are still committing such futile and pointless atrocities.

If I'm being honest I don't have the emotional tools to fully appreciate, process or understand this. But I can say that I hear you, and give my love and thoughts to you and your friends suffering the effects of these current times.

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CaringWhisper

Your words have made me feel better, and I understand how each of you feels - it's as if I can hear your voices. But that's the reality. He's killed too many people. They're never coming back. Never. And now he wants to kill even more. This category, which my friend's son belongs to, is exempt from mandatory military service in peaceful times. Putin is essentially sending children to war with disabilities that would make them unfit for service in any army in the world. We can't change anything. He'll kill even more. Right before my eyes. This isn't just a memory, it's what's happening across the ocean on this planet. I don't know how many more will be killed. Another million? Two? I can't stop thinking about it, all I can do is numb the pain. What lesson can be drawn from my life? We wake up, see the people around us, and simply joy in it, joy in the very fact of life itself.
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Quote from: CaringWhisper on April 10, 2026, 03:36:17 PMYour words have made me feel better, and I understand how each of you feels - it's as if I can hear your voices. But that's the reality. He's killed too many people. They're never coming back. Never. And now he wants to kill even more. This category, which my friend's son belongs to, is exempt from mandatory military service in peaceful times. Putin is essentially sending children to war with disabilities that would make them unfit for service in any army in the world. We can't change anything. He'll kill even more. Right before my eyes. This isn't just a memory, it's what's happening across the ocean on this planet. I don't know how many more will be killed. Another million? Two? I can't stop thinking about it, all I can do is numb the pain. What lesson can be drawn from my life? We wake up, see the people around us, and simply joy in it, joy in the very fact of life itself.
The British experienced this senseless waste of life in the trenches of WW1. 108 years later the emotions of it all is still felt at rememberance services and memorials across the country. Sometimes every young boy in the whole village were wiped out. Complete families wiped out, all for what. It's why I am so anti-war. I can't do anything to stop what is going on for your people but I do feel your pain.

Russia suffered this in WW2. To think that lessons haven't been learned is heartbreaking. I mean what is Putin's aims here anyway?
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Quote from: Stottie Girl on April 10, 2026, 03:50:26 PMRussia suffered this in WW2. To think that lessons haven't been learned is heartbreaking. I mean what is Putin's aims here anyway?
His goal is to save his own skin. Putin is an opportunist, he's used to biding his time until the moment is right, then passing it off as a victory. He's waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel, but there's still no sign of it. He doesn't know what to do. He's lost interest in anything that doesn't concern his own life and his family. By starting the war, he staked millions of lives as chips in a poker game, and now, after five years of war, he's emotionally burned out, to him, these lives aren't even poker chips, but disposable napkins — he knows he'll throw them away anyway. He's Hitler after the assassination attempt. He's half-mad, unable to think clearly. Age and constant stress.
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Quote from: CaringWhisper on April 10, 2026, 04:15:04 PMHis goal is to save his own skin. Putin is an opportunist, he's used to biding his time until the moment is right, then passing it off as a victory. He's waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel, but there's still no sign of it. He doesn't know what to do. He's lost interest in anything that doesn't concern his own life and his family. By starting the war, he staked millions of lives as chips in a poker game, and now, after five years of war, he's emotionally burned out, to him, these lives aren't even poker chips, but disposable napkins — he knows he'll throw them away anyway. He's Hitler after the assassination attempt. He's half-mad, unable to think clearly. Age and constant stress.
It will all end badly for him one day. Most dictators meet a sticky end eventually. I don't think many would shed a tear. I just hope when he goes he isn't replaced with something worse.
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Sephirah

Putin is like Trump, and every other one of these demagogue, power hungry narcissists. The only thing they care about is their own ego, their own wealth, and their own legacy. It doesn't matter how many people have to suffer for them to get there. The world is full of them. They can never be wrong. They can never fail. Everything they do will always be the best thing for everyone. Things that "no one has ever seen before", to quote the orange Messiah.

Sadly, Russia has had probably more of these characters than most. Outside of North Korea. The guy has been in power longer than anyone should be in power. And power corrupts.
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Jessica_Rose

The greatest failure of humanity is our capacity for inhumanity. The insatiable quest for power, and the selfish desire for wealth without purpose have caused too much suffering and death. One day all of humanity will learn the lesson of selflessness, or it will cease to exist.

Love always -- Jessica Rose
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