Susan's Place Logo
Main Menu

Lilis' World

Started by Lilis, December 30, 2024, 04:58:18 PM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Dances With Trees

Congratulations, Lilis! Happy New Year and Happy New You!

Lilis

Hi everyone,

I had a Late Somatic Release and Embodiment Shift (Personal Reflection)
I wanted to share a personal experience in case it resonates with others, especially those who've lived many years suppressing parts of themselves for safety.

Recently, during meditation and gentle somatic relaxation, I experienced what felt like a significant nervous-system release.

I realized my body had been chronically braced especially through my spine, hips, and gait for decades.

As that guarding softened, I noticed increased mobility, less pain, emotional release, and a sense of being more "in" my body.

For context, I've spent much of my life hiding my chest and femininity, often hunching or holding tension to avoid attention.

I didn't realize how much that had shaped my posture and movement until it began to unwind.

This wasn't sudden or forced.

It seemed to happen after a long period of increased safety, identity permission, and supportive spaces.

Since then, I've been in an integration phase, learning how to live with more softness and embodiment without pushing or overinterpreting it.

I'm sharing this not as advice or a solution, but as a reminder that our bodies sometimes hold survival patterns far longer than we realize, and that change, when it comes, can be subtle, physical, emotional, and very human.

If others have experienced something similar, I'd be curious to hear how you integrated it over time.

For clarity, I'm also discussing this with my therapist to integrate it responsibly.


~ Lilis 🌷
More about me:
Emerging from Darkness  ✨ | GAHT - 6/10/2024. ⚕️ | Electrolysis - 2/23/2025 ⚡| Progesterone - 3/24/2025 ⚕️ | Body laser - 3/26/2025 👙

"The Circle!" 🌑†🪞🔥

"Loving me as I am, tomorrow I will unmask even more." ~ Lilis 🌷

Pema

Lilis, congratulations on reaching this awareness and release. And thank you so much for sharing your experience with us.

I'd say that I've experienced a few of these events over the course of my life. I've generally thought of them as "epiphanies" or revelations of some significant inner truth that had been suppressed. I'm a firm believer (from experience) that our bodies are sensitive detectors of our emotions, and if we tune into those signals, we can identify their source and release them to become healthier and more whole than we had previously been. I've always found that the underlying cause was conditioned thoughts and beliefs that limited my sense of myself and/or the world. By shedding those beliefs and accepting what is, I've been able to experience less resistance and greater peace.

Your question about how to integrate it over time is without a doubt the most important one. Discovering it and understanding it are wonderful, but changing it - changing ourselves - is the hard part. There's probably no single answer, because it will depend on the person and their circumstances. What I've found is that my body continues to be my most reliable gauge. I know what that tension feels like - I'm not breathing as deeply as I could or my jaw muscles are taut - so I check in with my body when I think of it (or especially if I feel "off" somehow). When I observe it, I ask myself what it is that I'm resisting, and I try to release it. Even if I never identify something specific, a generic "surrender to what is" will often free the blockage.

I also know that this isn't a linear process; I won't overcome this hurdle and never face it again. I have absolutely reverted to conditioned sleepwalking during periods of my life. Integration of these lessons is a lifelong practice.

I'm excited for your discovery and your enthusiasm for moving beyond your constraints, so I hope you'll share more of your own process as you continue down this path. I think it's a huge gift to others to demonstrate your commitment to allowing yourself to blossom.

EDITED TO ADD: Whenever I find myself "off track," it's literally *always* because I'm lost in mind activity. The surest way for me to move out of that is to focus on inhabiting my body to dis-identify with my mind and return to something closer to pure consciousness.
"Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Lilis

Quote from: Pema on December 28, 2025, 09:36:41 AMLilis, congratulations on reaching this awareness and release. And thank you so much for sharing your experience with us.

Thank you, Pema! 🫂🩷

Yeah something seems to have softened as my life stabilized and my identity no longer felt under constant threat.

The change hasn't been dramatic or sudden in a "revelatory" way, but more like a quiet settling, less bracing in my body, easier movement, and a calmer internal sense of self when interacting with others.

I'm viewing this as a late-stage integration process rather than a transformation, and I'm continuing to ground it through therapy.

I wanted to share this in case others recognize similar shifts that happen gradually once safety, time, and permission finally come together.

I read some where that Estrogen and Progesterone in gender affirming care can  amplify what's already there of those feelings over time as well.

It's a liberating feeling!


~ Lilis 🌷
More about me:
Emerging from Darkness  ✨ | GAHT - 6/10/2024. ⚕️ | Electrolysis - 2/23/2025 ⚡| Progesterone - 3/24/2025 ⚕️ | Body laser - 3/26/2025 👙

"The Circle!" 🌑†🪞🔥

"Loving me as I am, tomorrow I will unmask even more." ~ Lilis 🌷

Northern Star Girl

    @Lilis
Dear Lilis:
                Guess what?  Tomorrow, Monday, January 5th  is your "special day" 
     
      Wishing you a very  HAPPY BIRTHDAY
                                🎉 🎂                  💐 🎉

            I hope that your plans for your Birthday include: 
CAKE with CANDLES    ICE CREAM    Celebrations with good friends
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
                       
       ❤️   
HUGS and my Birthday Wishes,
  Danielle
[Northern Star Girl]
****Help support this website by:
Subscribing !
                     and/or by
Donating ! https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/SusanElizabethLarson 🔗

❤️❤️❤️  Check out my Personal Blog Threads below
to read more details about me and my life.
  ❤️❤️❤️
             (Click Links below):   Oldest listed first
      Aspiringperson is now Alaskan Danielle   
           I am the Hunted Prey : Danielle's Chronicles
                  A New Chapter: Alaskan Danielle's Chronicles    
                             Danielle's Continuing Life Adventures

I started HRT March 2015 and
I've been Full-Time since December 2016.
I love living in a small town in Alaska
I am 45 years old and Single

        Email:  --->  alaskandanielle@
                             yahoo.com

Pema

Yay! Happy birthday, Lilis! I hope somebody in your life pampers you (extra). You deserve it.
"Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Charlotte_Ringwood

Happy birthday 🎂 🥳  xXx
HRT: since April 2025 DIY
GD diagnosis: Dec 2025
FFS: March 2026
Nottingham GIC waitlist from Oct 25
Agender,  fem-alingned, MTF

Charlotte's Instagram 🔗 [Link: instagram.com/charlotte_​ringwood/]

davina61

Happy birthday my dear XXX
a long time coming (out) HRT 12 2017
GRS 2021 5th Nov

Jill of all trades mistress of non
Know a bit about everything but not enough to be clever

ChrissyRyan

Happy birthday Lilis!

Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 

Emma1017


HAPPY BIRTHDAY LILIS!!!  I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT DAY!

tgirlamg

💕🎊🎉🎉🎉Happy Birthday Sister!!!🎉🎉🎉🎊💕 👋👩💕
🎂🎈🎁❤️🎂🎈🎁❤️🎂🎈🎁❤️🎂🎈🎁❤️🎂🎈🎁❤️
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻

Lori Dee

Happy Birthday, Lilis!

Wishing you peace, love, and happiness on your special day.
May you have many more birthdays to come.
My Life is Based on a True Story <-- The Story of Lori
The Story of Lori, Chapter 2
Veteran U.S. Army - SSG (Staff Sergeant) - M60A3 Tank Master Gunner
2017 - GD Diagnosis / 2019- 2nd Diagnosis / 2020 - HRT / 2022 - FFS & Legal Name Change
/ 2024 - Voice Training / 2025 - Passport & IDs complete - Started Electrolysis!

HELP US HELP YOU!
Please consider becoming a Subscriber.
Donations accepted at: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/SusanElizabethLarson 🔗

Dances With Trees

Happy Birthday, Lilis! Enjoy every moment.

Lilis

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on January 04, 2026, 09:13:36 PM@Lilis
Dear Lilis:
                Guess what?  Tomorrow, Monday, January 5th  is your "special day" 
     
      Wishing you a very  HAPPY BIRTHDAY
                                🎉 🎂                  💐 🎉

            I hope that your plans for your Birthday include: 
CAKE with CANDLES    ICE CREAM    Celebrations with good friends
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
                       
       ❤️   
HUGS and my Birthday Wishes,
  Danielle
[Northern Star Girl]

Hi beautiful sisters, 🩷

Omgash, I am completely overwhelmed (in the best way!) by all the wonderful birthday wishes you've sent my way today.

Reading each one has put the biggest smile on my face and filled my heart with so much warmth and gratitude.

You all make this community feel like home, and knowing I have sisters like you cheering me confirms to my nervous system that this is my home sweet home!

Kisses and hugs to all of you @Dances With Trees, @Northern Star Girl, @Lori Dee, @tgirlamg, @Emma1017, @ChrissyRyan, @davina61, @Charlotte_Ringwood, and @Pema

and to everyone those who posted, lurked, or even read this thread and just thought kind thoughts.

Hugs and kisses everyone 🫂😘🩷


~ Lilis 🌷
More about me:
Emerging from Darkness  ✨ | GAHT - 6/10/2024. ⚕️ | Electrolysis - 2/23/2025 ⚡| Progesterone - 3/24/2025 ⚕️ | Body laser - 3/26/2025 👙

"The Circle!" 🌑†🪞🔥

"Loving me as I am, tomorrow I will unmask even more." ~ Lilis 🌷

Sarah B

Hi Lilis

❤️🎂🎁🎊🎉🎉🎉💕💕🎉🎉🎉🎊🎁🎂❤️


Congratulations on Another
Birthday

❤️🎂🎁🎊🎉🎉🎉💕💕🎉🎉🎉🎊🎁🎂❤️


May all your dreams and wishes come true.

PS You think you can get away hiding your birthday from me?  I know about it even in Australia!!

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@Lilis
Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
May 1990 Three surgery letters.
Feb 1991 Surgery.

Lilis

Quote from: Sarah B on Yesterday at 03:34:01 PMHi Lilis

❤️🎂🎁🎊🎉🎉🎉💕💕🎉🎉🎉🎊🎁🎂❤️


Congratulations on Another
Birthday

❤️🎂🎁🎊🎉🎉🎉💕💕🎉🎉🎉🎊🎁🎂❤️


May all your dreams and wishes come true.


Thank you so much Sarah!!! 🩷

QuotePS You think you can get away hiding your birthday from me?  I know about it even in Australia!!
Hahaha, darn, I thought I was incognito 🥰😂

~ Lilis 🌷
More about me:
Emerging from Darkness  ✨ | GAHT - 6/10/2024. ⚕️ | Electrolysis - 2/23/2025 ⚡| Progesterone - 3/24/2025 ⚕️ | Body laser - 3/26/2025 👙

"The Circle!" 🌑†🪞🔥

"Loving me as I am, tomorrow I will unmask even more." ~ Lilis 🌷