As a MTF, what aspects of womanhood have you appreciated the most and least?

[ChrissyRyan]

Exactly!  I like being able to be myself with no performance required.  I can wear nice clothes without having to avoid bright colours or floral patterns.  I can catch a woman's eye and exchange smiles without any ulterior motive being assumed, and I can chat easily with other women.

I had had to learn to be aware of my own safety.  When walking out to the car in a parking lot, i hold my keys between my fingers, like I have been taught.  As backup, I carry a pocket knife in my purse.

Kathy,


It is good to protect ourselves.  There are some strange and evil people out there.


Chrissy

[Stottie Girl]

Kathy,


It is good to protect ourselves.  There are some strange and evil people out there.


Chrissy

There are also an awful lot more lovely people out there too, we should not forget that!

At 50 years old I never been involved in a single altercation or act of violence, even at school. Not that it doesn't happen of course but we don't need to spend our lives coiled like a ninja in case a whack job is around every corner. Know what to do but don't live in fear.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

There are also an awful lot more lovely people out there too, we should not forget that!

At 50 years old I never been involved in a single altercation or act of violence, even at school. Not that it doesn't happen of course but we don't need to spend our lives coiled like a ninja in case a whack job is around every corner. Know what to do but don't live in fear.

There are definitely nasty people out there for sure. I was attacked on two occasions in Leeds when I was boymode and not so big built. Got called f***in gay boy, hit and spat on on the bus. Then drinks thrown over me and spat on in the city centre. I'm bigger now and don't let people bother me. I hold my head high and make eye contact to maintain dominance. That keeps most trouble away.

Guess I had two choices - remain fearful or stand tall and take control. I did the latter.

Charlotte 😻

[KathyLauren]

There are also an awful lot more lovely people out there too, we should not forget that!

At 50 years old I never been involved in a single altercation or act of violence, even at school. Not that it doesn't happen of course but we don't need to spend our lives coiled like a ninja in case a whack job is around every corner. Know what to do but don't live in fear.

I agree.  I have never had a bad experience since I came out.  I don't live in fear: carrying my keys is just something that women do.

On the other hand, I am mentally prepared to use them should the need ever arise.  That is how I came to terms with an unfortunate incident back when I was a teenager.  I am prepared to do what I wish I had done back then.

[ChrissyRyan]

There are also an awful lot more lovely people out there too, we should not forget that!

At 50 years old I never been involved in a single altercation or act of violence, even at school. Not that it doesn't happen of course but we don't need to spend our lives coiled like a ninja in case a whack job is around every corner. Know what to do but don't live in fear.

It is good to protect ourselves against the evil people out there.  You do not have to for the good people.

[Dawn Kellie]

I did some police training thinking about becoming an officer.  One of the biggest pieces of advice I got was, if you look like a victim you will be a victim. When you're out and about keep your head up and keep your eyes moving.  Know what's around you and who is around you. You will always have the occasional punk that has something to prove, but most thugs don't mess with the person that is aware

[noleen111]

Most - How I went from a shy/hermit male to an outgoing/life of the party female. I love wearing dresses that feeling of the dress or pantyhose on my freshly shaved legs is amazing.

I also loved embracing my femininity and exploring it. I love female time, love getting my hair or nails done, I love acrylic nails. I go to a lady that does nails by her house. Its some real girl time. My toes I do myself, i love gel nail polish on them.

And ladies, yes I will say it.. I love the fact, I must wear a bra (HRT gave me D cup breasts, I love my breasts).. I love wearing one, that feeling of the band around me like a warn hug, reminds me, I am a woman. A proper fitting bra is actually very comfortable to wear.

My favorite feeling was when I got to be a bride, I felt like a princess in my wedding dress.

I also love wearing heels, the higher the better, if my feet get sore, then my husband gives me a foot rub.. i love those.


What i least appreciate

I been spoken down to sometimes because I am a girl, especially mechanics.. I will never forget, this one time.. you see my father was a mechanic and I often was forced to help him, so I know a thing or two.. I they needed to sort out my car and they spoke me like i was a clueless lady. then I knew what he was talking about and I responded, ok.. then you will replace this part.. and you should have seen the look on this mechanics face.

... Often sales people will speak to my husband and ignore me.

Been felt up, if you on a train or in a crowd, often you feel someone touching my behind, as my friend says, that is part of been a lady.. sad part, but part of the package.

and also boob sweat, on hot humid days that wet feeling under my breasts, is yucky.

[Anne_lifetrip]

Clothes are a winner for me...

And of course, the clothes! So comfy and so many possibilities of style and color.

I have just realized, going back to my male wardrobe that I was blue, grey and black...where as my female clothes are so colorful and make me feel so good.
Besides the clothes, the womanhood and feeling of connection...It is something hard to explain, but very powerful.
And of course, being myself...and everything makes a happy ME

[Athena]

First and foremost I am glad to be free from testosterone. I don't like who I was on testosterone, I don't like the feelings and needs that I experienced growing up.

Also being far less concerned about "social norms" than I used to be is really nice.

All in all it is just so nice to be me without expectations or urges putting me in a box. If I want to play American football with pink flowers on my jersey I can (well that may be a bit untrue with my age and knees but the thought is there).

[Athena]

Sorry for the least I would have to say dilating. Once a week is almost worse than 1-2 times a day in some aspects. Also about a month ago maybe a little bit longer I was tired and didn't pay attention so I forgot to use lube, I wound up damaging my vagina and now every time I dilate I bleed fairly heavily for a little while. 

[AlisonM]

Most: I love being at peace and happy with myself... the lack of depression since I realized that I am a woman.

Least: The process of coming out is daunting and somewhat scary but the thing I like the least is that there are people who are actively trying to make transitioning so hard by passing unreasonable laws and expectations of my beloved queer community.