Charlotte's scratch post

[Courtney G]

I'll just throw this out there:

You have a space here, Charlotte. It belongs to you. You may use it as you wish. You can abuse it and neglect it if that's what you're feeling and no one will have any expectations of you.

No one will have any expectations of you.

You don't have to pop into the threads of others and say nice things. You don't even have to read other threads if what they say triggers or hurts you or makes you feel less than. This is a giving place, full of giving people. We give and expect nothing in return. This means if you need to take for a while (or indefinitely), just do that. Use this space, use us for whatever support we might provide. That's why we're here.

Oh, and the profile photo/dress are super super cute!

[davina61]

I just accept what I have been given the fact I can pass as an older lady (well I am 71) , I will never be slim and graceful but I am happy with what the universe gave me. I say lower your expectations and you might get a surprise. I like you new profile pic, looking fab my dear.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Thanks for the kindness, you're all just too sweet when I'm just a mess head with no emotional control!

I guess I just dream of having a me I can be proud of, that doesn't just remind me of him all the time. Maybe some would like my figure, but to me its the embodiment of him and thats always in my head. I just hope and pray I get some curves in the coming years as butt lift and hip fat injection has a very tough recovery. I really dont want to go that far.

Thats my new running outfit. I would love a body shape thats nice rather than this man figure!

[Stottie Girl]

Give it time Charlotte. Your body will respond.

You aren't going to be curvy like Kelly Brook or Kim Kardashian, none of us are, so you need to be realistic.

Because of my weight I'm not really sure what body shape awaits me as I slim down but what will be will be. I hope for curves but if that's not what I've been dealt then that's OK.

Women come in all shapes and sizes there are plenty of women who aren't very curvy but still look awesome. At the end of the day we can't change our skeleton so we can't expect total miracles if we do not have the hip width or the petite shoulders. We can choose clothing that flatters the shape we do have though. CIS women have to accept clothing limitations based on their frame all the time. I can't really wear button up tops or halter neck tops for example.

If you are going running what about swaping your shorts for a skort? The a-line skirt will give you a more flattering shape for now while you wait for your body fat to change.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

I'll try and find a skort that's cute to see if that helps at least from the outside. But I still would love a body that I'm proud of. I literally ate 1.5 kg of peanut butter on my existing diet over 2 weeks and didn't even put on 50g. How does that even happen lol. I'm considering adding shots of olive oil to all my food next and upping to 1kg peanut butter a week. Like force my body to get heavier!

[Stottie Girl]

I'll try and find a skort that's cute to see if that helps at least from the outside. But I still would love a body that I'm proud of. I literally ate 1.5 kg of peanut butter on my existing diet over 2 weeks and didn't even put on 50g. How does that even happen lol. I'm considering adding shots of olive oil to all my food next and upping to 1kg peanut butter a week. Like force my body to get heavier!

Don't ask me! If I share the same room as a jar of peanut butter I'll be liable to put 3 lbs on even if I don't open the lid!

If you really want to put weight on then bakery treats, pizzas junk food or US fast food is a sure way to do it. Get youself to Greggs, McDonalds, Pizza Hut and KFC and watch your waistline magically expand ha ha!

I strongly advise you not to do it though! It's tough loosing weight on HRT.

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

@Charlotte Kitty
Dear Charlotte:
Your new dress in your profile picture and your running outfit look
great on you... I love the colors and teddy bear pattern...
That fits in with your furry activity too.

It's not a good plan to try to put on weight to get more curves...  you
will get more curves alright, but in the wrong places.  My thought is that
if you slim down a little and continue you exercise routines... and let
your HRT do it's work that would you be pleased...
....but that is just my unqualified opinion. 
I might suggest that you follow what Sarah, @Stottie Girl  said
about not putting on weight...that it is tough to get rid of it, especially
with HRT. 
My thought is that a thinner you will perhaps help getting rid of the
"man body" image that you think that you see.

Wishing you happiness...
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

I'll try and find a skort that's cute to see if that helps at least from the outside. But I still would love a body that I'm proud of. I literally ate 1.5 kg of peanut butter on my existing diet over 2 weeks and didn't even put on 50g. How does that even happen lol. I'm considering adding shots of olive oil to all my food next and upping to 1kg peanut butter a week. Like force my body to get heavier!

[Stottie Girl]

I might suggest that you follow what Sharon, @Stottie Girl  said
about not putting on weight...that it is tough to get rid of it, especially
with HRT. 

Are you trolling me Danielle??!!! Who the hell is this Sharon ha ha! Do I have a doppleganger out there in a sleepy Alaskan town somewhere?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[tammy753]

@Charlotte Kitty
Dear Charlotte:
Your new dress in your profile picture and your running outfit look
great on you... I love the colors and teddy bear pattern...
That fits in with your furry activity too.

It's not a good plan to try to put on weight to get more curves...  you
will get more curves alright, but in the wrong places.  My thought is that
if you slim down a little and continue you exercise routines... and let
your HRT do it's work that would you be pleased...
....but that is just my unqualified opinion. 
I might suggest that you follow what Sharon, @Stottie Girl  said
about not putting on weight...that it is tough to get rid of it, especially
with HRT. 
My thought is that a thinner you will perhaps help getting rid of the
"man body" image that you think that you see.

Wishing you happiness...
HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

I saw that dress to and its amazing. I want but it looks better on you that on me. Its so pretty and you look gorgeous in the photo! I am so jealous.

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

Are you trolling me Danielle??!!! Who the hell is this Sharon ha ha! Do I have a doppleganger out there in a sleepy Alaskan town somewhere?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Stottie Girl
Dear Sarah:
I have no excuse other than I am so busy at work and on the Forum.
Please forgive me for the umpteenth time.  I will work harder on this bad habit.

I have fixed my posting but the original quotation is on your post reply
as a reminder of my error.
HUGS, Danielle

[Stottie Girl]

@Stottie Girl
Dear Sarah:
I have no excuse other than I am so busy at work and on the Forum.
Please forgive me for the umpteenth time.  I will work harder on this habit.
I have fixed my posting but the original quotation is on your post reply
as a reminder of my error.
HUGS, Danielle

Ha ha creased!🤣🤣 I hope this Sharon you have on your mind is a glamorous blonde goddess and not the local fisherwife!

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

I saw that dress to and its amazing. I want but it looks better on you that one me. Its so pretty and you look gorgeous in the photo! I am so jealous.

Thank you Tammy thats very sweet of you.
Awww, but I'm sure it'll look gorgeous on you too. Plus we could be dress twins which would be just toooo cute! I always wanted to find someone that likes the same kinda cuteness as I do 😻

[tammy753]

I would need 2 of them to sew together. I do have a purple floral dress that I love.

[davina61]

Dont take this the wrong way but if you lost some tummy then that would give more shape, I have cut down on amount I eat and still not lost any. Like Sharon woops Sarah (he he) I only have to look at cake and stuff and I put on a LB.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Dont take this the wrong way but if you lost some tummy then that would give more shape, I have cut down on amount I eat and still not lost any. Like Sharon woops Sarah (he he) I only have to look at cake and stuff and I put on a LB.

I know that would help, but I hate the slim look even more than how I look right now! I'd have a slim waist and boney hips, no way! If I don't get hip / butt fat in the next few years, fat transfer surgery is only around £3-4k so I'll just force my body, it won't win!

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

I really wanted to share this picture as it's my favourite picture of me with my fiancé so far. He just grabbed me so tight and put on the cutest smile. He is the most amazing, kind and quirky man. He copes with a lot considering my mental health, but we work together to support each other always. And the giggles we have together are out of this world. We are both just super silly!

[Devlyn ✅]

I know that would help, but I hate the slim look even more than how I look right now! I'd have a slim waist and boney hips, no way! If I don't get hip / butt fat in the next few years, fat transfer surgery is only around £3-4k so I'll just force my body, it won't win!

It's also the number one most deadly elective surgery. Please don't consider this, we want you around. ❤️

I'm not a dietician, but I seem to recall a weight gain strategy known as the Häagen-Dazs Plan? 😁

Hugs, Devlyn

[Stottie Girl]

Dont take this the wrong way but if you lost some tummy then that would give more shape, I have cut down on amount I eat and still not lost any. Like Sharon woops Sarah (he he) I only have to look at cake and stuff and I put on a LB.

Don't you bloody start!

[Courtney G]

I've found that body shape changes take the longest. From my research and personal experience I can tell you that they're pretty much the last visible change to occur. So far, my body tracks with that, with shape changes being part of the 4 to 8 year plan rather that the 2 to 3 year one. But time flies and change will come.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

@Devlyn I have heard it can be risky but there is also part of me that loves rolling the dice with my life and I get a big uplift from doing that. I find it grounding to take risks that could hurt me. Trying to work out why with my therapist and just end up with even more weird stuff, but I do consider myself expendable. I'll try the ice cream first though.

@Courtney G I do get the feeling it might take a while to happen, or if it even does happen. I guess I'm absolutely terrified of where / how I'll be in 5+ years. Thinking about anything beyond 1 year away fills me with anxiety, dread and makes me feel sick. I think that's why I struggle with patience, because in my mind I'll have failed completely or not be here anymore in over a years time. A future doesn't really exist in my mind as I can't visualise it at all. Its just day to day, that's all I feel.

I've done a little more voice training and I'm using a pseudo feminine voice 95% of the time now. Occasionally drop back a little particularly in evenings when I'm tired or relaxed. Not sure how long it takes to fully embed.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/14mPklYWiQr80aqPqJQFpxN3w8I9UE4GG/view?usp=sharing 🔗

Love and hugz XX