Charlotte's scratch post

[Petunia]

This happens and sometimes you can do more laser or could be time to switch electrolysis to finish it up. Hugs
Mariah

I knew going in to laser that it wouldn't get the greys and would only reduce the dark hair so much.

I knew that I might have to go harder.

I loved having no dark hair but now it's come back, I'm like Charlotte.

Despite a lot of doubts, we both recognise we don't wsnt facial hair.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

My car will be at 150,000 miles in 2 years and 11 years old. It'll end up needing expensive repairs. I dont want a new car, I'll need one to literally go to work. There is no public transport to my workplace thatd take less than 2 hours commute!

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Do you really need that need car and vacation?

Voice lessons will go a long way towards passing.
So will changing your mannerisms and walk.  I confidently shop wearing kitten heels.
That gives me a walk that is quite feminine.

https://ornithology.com/identifying-birds-with-giss-or-jizz/ 🔗
People identify things via general impressions whether they realize it or not.
FFS is less important than we think it is when it comes to passing.
It may be important for other reasons, such as mental health issues.

To be honest my voice is already read as female because I worked on it myself.  Needs refinement but my natural voice is feminine 100% of the time now.

I try to move and walk feminine too. But honestly if you watch women in the uk they don't walk or act much differently. I watched many couples walking in the shopping centre and their movements were near identical. I do keep my shoulders up and move my hips though too add femininity.

The link you sent is an interesting read, particularly as it kind of explains how I'm read as female at a distance, if people walk past me, just in the pool etc. So 95% of the time I casually pass. But if someone looks directly at my face then its obvious I'm sure, as a couple of people asked my pronouns when talking to me. I didn't say I was trans.

[Maid Marion]

My car will be at 150,000 miles in 2 years and 11 years old. It'll end up needing expensive repairs. I dont want a new car, I'll need one to literally go to work. There is no public transport to my workplace thatd take less than 2 hours commute!

It may be worth researching how much it will cost fix your car.  It may be worth repairing versus the cost of a new one if the cost of maintaining an old one is typically low.

[davina61]

My Yeti has done over 150k ,had to fit a new rear wishbone for MOT and fit new rear brake pads a while ago but apart from the EGR delete its been cheap to run. But then I do the repairs myself.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

My Yeti has done over 150k ,had to fit a new rear wishbone for MOT and fit new rear brake pads a while ago but apart from the EGR delete its been cheap to run. But then I do the repairs myself.

I can do some repairs myself, but the likely thing's to fail will be the turbo and the clutch. The car is mapped from 150 to 238bhp pushing nearly 500nm torque. I'll be surprised if the clutch lasts past 150000 and definitely something I can't do myself! Even turbo is under the engine and subframe drop needed to access it!

Clutch alone will be over £1000+. Turbo probably £1200+

[davina61]

Same for mine, as far as I know original clutch and being 4wd you have to drop the transfer box to get at the turbo. It had a 50hp tune when EGR delete done so is now 220hp, have to watch it overtaking folks as nearly rammed someone first time after mod!

[Courtney G]

A heavy duty throwout bearing (if available) is a useful upgrade when replacing the clutch on a worked motor.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Having looked at a load of information and risk liklihoods I've decided to go ahead with colon vaginoplasty so I have self lubrication and a closer internal approximation to cis. There are increased risks, but most of those are short term and solved early on. A smaller % risk applies to longer term complications which would require more permanent treatments.

Of course the worst case risk is total failure but essentially any vaginoplasty could experience similar. Things like smell and leakage most often clear by 6 months. I think following good care routines go a long way to keeping things good and healthy.

I do need them first to confirm if it is safe to do still along with BA as thats still a deal breaker.

Charlotte ❤️

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Well my GRS is now confirmed as Sigmoid colon so expecting a bit more gruelling first few days of recovery. Limited food intake and probable abdominal pains. But like any surgery, its getting through those first few days for the benefit of a lifetime after. I just sincerely hope I'm not one of the few % with bigger issues, but if so will just have to run with it as best I can. I'm really looking for the additional experiences this type of GRS surgery will hopefully give me, but I can't go into detail here!

On that note my relationship is now officially ENM (ethical non monogamy) which works for us both. He's not fully comfortable offering me sexual experiences and he understands that I need those. I'm already on a female only app looking for casual / hook ups which is really scary tbh. This is the first time I've been out there as Charlotte and being judged for that kind of thing. But I feel so out of place and like I don't really belong there. There are all these beautiful women on there and part of me feels like a fake, like I'm neither feminine enough or good looking enough. Like why would anyone want me considering all the others there? Even other trans women on there just make me look underwhelming. I dunno, its just bringing out insecurity I've not felt yet as Charlotte. I've considered judgement out and about that I care less about. But this time I do care what people think...I want someone to find me attractive enough that they want to have fun with me. But I cant in all honesty believe that anyone on there looking for a woman would want me as a trans girl and one that's at best mediocre looking. Also a lot of the women looking for casual / hookups are married to men - are they really going to see me as woman enough to fulfil their needs considering they have a male partner?

Then there's another dimension. Do I want this full experience with another woman before my GRS? Sure I'd love a touchy feely thing with someone, but wouldn't want to use down there, unless maybe they were very reassuring with me and truly saw me as a woman. But after GRS I would feel totally as I want to be and personally on more of a level with my female partner. I know GRS is not needed to be trans, but for me it would be a paradigm shift, removing a big difference and placing me on a plane where I feel equal.

Anyways that's quite some rambling. Still lots to figure out and each experience reveals new insecurities / things to figure out with regards defining my gender.

[Finally Anna]

Rambling is ok, but keep in mind that what you see in Dating sites, FB, X, TikTok, Insta and other such places is just a façade.

And I guess it feels good to have decided on the GRS.

🥰

[Petunia]

To be honest my voice is already read as female because I worked on it myself.  Needs refinement but my natural voice is feminine 100% of the time now.

I try to move and walk feminine too. But honestly if you watch women in the uk they don't walk or act much differently. I watched many couples walking in the shopping centre and their movements were near identical. I do keep my shoulders up and move my hips though too add femininity.

The link you sent is an interesting read, particularly as it kind of explains how I'm read as female at a distance, if people walk past me, just in the pool etc. So 95% of the time I casually pass. But if someone looks directly at my face then its obvious I'm sure, as a couple of people asked my pronouns when talking to me. I didn't say I was trans.

Hey, um Charlotte. Did you look at what you wrote here.

I read this looking at one of your cute dresses with your smiling face.

I really don't think it's obvious your trans. It's just people are looking at you because you are a WOMAN.

I look at women all the time, because they are beautiful. Men look at women because they can't look away.
Women look at women because they kind of compete and critique.

You are no longer male.

You are either nb or you are female.

Congratulations sweetee.

I hope you recognise this next time you feel down.

💞💕💞💕

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Hey, um Charlotte. Did you look at what you wrote here.

I read this looking at one of your cute dresses with your smiling face.

I really don't think it's obvious your trans. It's just people are looking at you because you are a WOMAN.

I look at women all the time, because they are beautiful. Men look at women because they can't look away.
Women look at women because they kind of compete and critique.

You are no longer male.

You are either nb or you are female.

Congratulations sweetee.

I hope you recognise this next time you feel down.

💞💕💞💕

I wouldn't say anyone looks at me - neither men or women. I'm basically invisible most of the time out there.

Unfortunately though something is chaging in my face and making me look male again and it's really stressing me out. Not sure if its just the dark hair coming back or something else.

Like these pictures today, I so don't look femme 😢 Honestly I so wish I was normal and just looked normal. Why did i have to look like a weirdo freak and then be trans on top of that?

[Lori Dee ✅]

Personally, I think you are nitpicking. I don't see the maleness.

Maybe it's because your hair is covered; you are focusing on facial features.

But I don't see it.