Quote from: CosmicJoke on January 19, 2026, 10:54:37 AMI think I've seen this happen. I try to be open however to whoever wants to be in my life. Maybe they really have changed and genuinely want to be supportive?
It's also possible that
you have changed and are more open to the outside world.
Whether you transition or not, self-acceptance is like getting the key to a prison you never really knew you were locked inside.
We all read body language and subtle cues given off by the people around us. When you're keeping yourself hidden away, you're sending off signals that you don't want people to look for you. Often because
you don't want to look for you. So often they don't.
As Annika alluded to, though, sometimes it isn't retroactive. Sometimes people who knew you before have their own issues, based on how they feel about trans people. And some of those never go away. Nothing to do with who you are, and what kind of friend you are. It depends on the individual and in those cases, all you can really do is just accept it and move on.
My rule of thumb is to be kind and friendly to everyone until they give you a reason not to be.
And then be their worst nightmare And then smile and move on in your life.
