Hey Kellie,
So I'm out to my therapist.
She warned me that eventually everything comes out!
So I admited to crossdressing at a young age, going through a fetishistic stage through male puberty, disgust in middle age and repression and sudden reimergence at late fifties.
She said she already though I was cd. It's pretty obvious if you know what to look for.
One thing she said was she never saw any facial hair. I thought this was the last thing someone would pick.
I went through everythimg I'd done (briefly), things I'd read, stuff I'd read about being transgender and how I'd been ticking off all the " you might be trans if" stuff.
I shared stuff I read online and she gave me stuff to read as well.
I only have one more appointment with her and once again I spilled my guts despite my wifes wishes but it was going to happen.
My wife isn't happy about me opening up to another person, but she accepts thats what therapists do.
So for now, my wife says a little crossdressing at home is ok, makeup when she isn't home is ok. No crossdressing out of the house as it would reflect on her.
I've said our marriage is the most important thing in my life and I can't lose that.
I still don't know where I sit. It's not total dude, it's probably nb but so much of what I've read and seen ticks the boxes of you might be transgender if.....
I really haven't discussed this fully with my wife and it's too soon to do it.
I wish my life was so much simplier.