Hi StottieI understand why you feel the way you do. When the people you hoped would support you instead dismiss or invalidate you, that hurts deeply.
Several replies in this thread show that others have faced similar situations. Some people have chosen to move somewhere new and start again, while others stayed and built their lives step by step despite resistance around them.
There is no single correct answer. What matters most is protecting your wellbeing and living honestly.
I also want to address something important about accountability and community. I have also been moderated here in the past and I accepted that what I did was wrong. It takes a very strong person to apologise or admit they are wrong. Owning mistakes is not weakness. It is a sign of strength and maturity.
As Susan has elaborated as well as others, we need to hold a much higher standard for ourselves. That applies to how we speak to each other, how we support people who are struggling and how we respond when we make mistakes.
You are clearly carrying a lot right now. Feeling alone while trying to make major life decisions is incredibly difficult. But the fact that you reached out and shared this shows that you still want connection and understanding.
Whatever you ultimately decide about staying or leaving, remember that your life and your identity belong to you. The opinions of others do not define your worth or your future.
You are definitely not as alone as you may feel right now.
Best Wishes AlwaysSarah BGlobal Moderator@Stottie Girl
