Hi Sarah,
First — breathe. You're okay, and you're not in trouble.
What happened here is something that happens on forums all the time, and it's worth taking a moment to explain how it works, so everyone can benefit from understanding the process.
Our moderators review posts not to judge the person, but to make sure the language on the forum can't be misread or taken out of context. This is a public forum indexed by search engines — anyone in the world can read what's written here. When a post is edited, it's housekeeping. It's not a punishment, it's not a strike against you, and it doesn't mean anyone thinks badly of you.
In your case, the phrasing you used — not your intent — echoed language that has been co-opted by far-right groups as a dog whistle. You didn't know that, and nobody thinks you're far-right. The edit was made to protect you as much as the forum, so that your words couldn't be taken out of context by someone outside this community.
A few things I want everyone to take away from this:
Political discussion is welcome here when it comes from a respectful, non-heated place. We are not a politics-free zone. However, if someone advocates for policies that are actively being used to target the trans and LGBTQ+ community, that will be treated as a Terms of Service violation. And no one should be upset when another member points out how specific politicians or parties are negatively impacting our community. For us, that's not abstract political debate — it's about our lives and our safety.
When a moderator reaches out to you about a post, it's a conversation, not a conviction. Our staff are here to keep this space safe for everyone. The best response is to take it in stride, understand why, and move on. There's no need to panic, delete your posts, or feel like you've been cast out.
On that note — please don't delete your own posts when they've been part of an active conversation. When you remove your side of a discussion, it leaves everyone else's replies hanging without context. Those conversations belong to the whole community, not just one participant. If you have concerns about something you've posted, reach out to a moderator and we can work it out together.
If a post needs editing or removal, the staff will let you know what was changed and why. Sometimes they'll offer alternative ways of saying what you meant that follow the spirit of this community. Work with them — they're on your side. Remember, we are transgender people first and foremost. Everything we do here is in service of protecting this community and the people in it.
Sarah, you've become a valued part of this community in a short time. The fact that people came out in force to support you in this thread should tell you everything you need to know about how you're seen here. Don't censor yourself. Don't shrink back. Just keep being you — and if a mod taps you on the shoulder, know that it comes from a place of care, not criticism.
As the meme says you are one of us.
— Susan💜
