Crossdresser or Trans

[Northern Star Girl ✅]

To eleaborate and restate last week's reply comments from @Allie Jayne and from  @Lori Dee
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Transgender: An inclusive umbrella term for anyone whose sex was incorrectly assigned at birth — for any reason, to any degree, for any length of time.
This includes but is not limited to trans women, trans men, intersex, non-binary, genderqueer and genderfluid, agender, crossdressers, drag kings and queens, and people whose cultures have traditional recognition of genders beyond the binary (such as Two-Spirit, Hijra, Fa'afafine, Māhū, and others).
In short: anyone experiencing, exploring, or expressing gender beyond conventional cisgender roles.

On this site, you are both!

Community Definitions:

Transgender: An inclusive umbrella term for anyone whose sex was incorrectly assigned at birth — for any reason, to any degree, for any length of time.

This includes but is not limited to trans women, trans men, intersex, non-binary, genderqueer and genderfluid, agender, crossdressers, drag kings and queens, and people whose cultures have traditional recognition of genders beyond the binary (such as Two-Spirit, Hijra, Fa'afafine, Māhū, and others).

In short: anyone experiencing, exploring, or expressing gender beyond conventional cisgender roles.

This term describes a broad range of lived experiences and does not imply any specific appearance, behavior, medical history, or transition path.

But I see where you are coming from. You are questioning if you just like wearing womens clothes, or if you need to be a woman. Only you can answer this.

My take on this is are you gender incongruent? Are you uncomfortable with your assigned sex, and is your discomfort lessened when you affirm your gender identity by dressing? If so, maybe you are not 'just a crossdresser'.

Many of us who are gender incongruent go through a phase of 'crossdressing', then eventually we may learn that the enjoyment felt when dressing is actually relief from living in the incorrect gender role. When we dress to affirm our gender identity, we feel 'at home', or 'true to our real self'. Many simply get enjoyment from dressing to challenge social norms, to participate in beauty, or maybe to achieve sexual pleasure. The difference would seem to be relief from a socially forced gender role, or pleasure from an activity.

The answer may only become clear with time.

Hugs,

Allie

Kellie,

Susan has written a wonderful article about this. Check out:
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247148.msg2262144.html#msg2262144

[Dawn Kellie]

I may have stated things incorrectly.
I feel a part of me that has been suppressed is coming out. I do so enjoy wearing womans clothes. It's not a fetish thing. I truly enjoy have in womens clothing.  I look at my painted toes with accesorios on and feel this is so normal feeling, all the way down to the pedicure. I've always wondered why cant i wear makeup ir some of the wonderful clothing women wear.
I feel my normal is awakening to something that needs to be worked out in therapy. When Im behind on laundry and I have to wear men's only items I'm missing part of my expression.

[Ciara]

Thank you everyone. I feel more and more I'm trans. I will be talking to a therapist for the first time Tuesday. It's the first time I've ever talked to a therapist. I also am talking to her about other things.  I'm wondering if the other iss7are part of questioning who I am. I will update as things are more clear

Bets of luck with the therapist on Tuesday Kellie. Looking forward to hearing how it went ❤️.

Ciara.

[Niaomi]

To answer your question yes

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[KristaFairchild]

I may have stated things incorrectly.
I feel a part of me that has been suppressed is coming out. I do so enjoy wearing womans clothes. It's not a fetish thing. I truly enjoy have in womens clothing.  I look at my painted toes with accesorios on and feel this is so normal feeling, all the way down to the pedicure. I've always wondered why cant i wear makeup ir some of the wonderful clothing women wear.
I feel my normal is awakening to something that needs to be worked out in therapy. When Im behind on laundry and I have to wear men's only items I'm missing part of my expression.

I felt this way and gave the feelings time to grow. They kept growing. I questioned it repeatedly but the feelings grew, as did my feminine expression. 

Feel free to read my ramblings about this in my member blog "Krista's Celebrations and Doubts"

[Sarah B ✅]

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[JasmineHeart]

I think people get confused a lot between transgender and transitioning. Everyone has their own definitions, and maybe they're all correct. The real question is do you want to be a woman 24/7, I think. I've been crossdressing since I was 5,and have  wished I was a real girl so many times. Now I'm on HRT, and to my surprise I don't crossdress anymore... I just feel right.

[ChrissyRyan]

I think people get confused a lot between transgender and transitioning. Everyone has their own definitions, and maybe they're all correct. The real question is do you want to be a woman 24/7, I think. I've been crossdressing since I was 5,and have  wished I was a real girl so many times. Now I'm on HRT, and to my surprise I don't crossdress anymore... I just feel right.

Yes, it feels right.


Chrissy

[Stottie Girl]

I think people get confused a lot between transgender and transitioning. Everyone has their own definitions, and maybe they're all correct. The real question is do you want to be a woman 24/7, I think. I've been crossdressing since I was 5,and have  wished I was a real girl so many times. Now I'm on HRT, and to my surprise I don't crossdress anymore... I just feel right.

For quite a few the regular crossdressing is tied to a sexual thrill as well as just the gender dysphoria. It is perfectly normal. But when you introduce HRT your Libido drops and breaks that connection. That is why people often say HRT is the great decider when it comes to whether you are truly transsexual or simply somewher else on the spectrum.

For most with gender dysphoria it brings relief and calmness. You no longer need to be obsessed with thinking about how badly you want to be a woman as you are on the road to becoming one. You start thinking like a woman. It removes the need to dress to validate your feelings. I found that I didn't dress as often soon after taking HRT but once my body started to become more feminine I really started leaning into it and now I'm borderline obsessed with womens fashion, hair and make up!

[Maid Marion]

Socializing is much easier when I dress in female clothes.
If I wear male clothes people spend way too much mental energy trying to figure out my gender!
It is like going to the beach and being exhausted before you actually get there!

With female clothes everything matches.  Voice, walk, mannerisms, and appearance.
In a recent round of golf I one guy still thought I was female when we were teeing off on the 15th hole!

Marion