Quote from: Lori Dee on Today at 09:16:47 AMAnother introvert here, and I agree with Charlotte; the hiking club sounds perfect. What about a photography club, cooking classes, or local history groups that could benefit from your experience?
The key is that you are not there to make friends. You are there to participate in the event, and that keeps the pressure off. If it is a regular event, people will get to know you. I typically don't TRY to make new friends, because I mostly just don't care. I do try to keep my walls down, so I still meet people.
I don't intentionally drive people away. I just really suck at keeping relationships working, and people drift away. But having common activities seems to help keep things together longer.
I AM lonely though, I DO want to make friends but I'm rubbish at it!
At the moment I am just not fit enough to do even the beginner hikes I think. Besides, if I join one of those groups, I want to join fully transitioned. I do not want to have to transition after getting to know everyone. I do like photography workshops but they tend to be one offs, I think you need to be turning up somewhere regularly to have any chance of making friends.
I think I'm just feeling sorry for myself because I'm a bit hurt. I've invested all my efforts into one person and I should have been more outgoing I think. When they drifted away I am left with nobody, I used to be so independant and resiliant. Maybe opening myself up wasn't the best idea right now. I have so much going on in my life at the moment it's all getting on top of me. There's no real quick fix for this sadly but I think once male me is gone for good I will be embracing all these ideas. I think as a male people just didn't gel with me but I hope as Sarah I am a bit more likeable maybe, a bit more outgoing.
