The world according to Sarah

[Lori Dee ✅]

Maybe a day when you're feeling on top of the world is the day to try it. Take yourself out for a treat to celebrate a good day. Push that energy to your body and smile. Stand tall because you are great in yourself.

That's good advice. It doesn't have to be an hour-long seven-course meal. Just go for ice cream, sit, and enjoy it. As Charlotte said, most people are not paying attention. They are in their own little world, and you are not a part of that. Be brave, Little Sister. Walk in like you own the place, and everyone will assume you do (except the owners).

😀

[Dawn Kellie]

Awwww i wish I could give you some of my dont give a ____ energy! I totally get it though as i was similar at one time. But then I started my job and got sent to China, USA, Sweden etc all alone. So i ended up eating alone sometimes and those fears along with many others went.

Sometimes things come up in life that push you forwards however uncomfortable it is at first.

But honestly most people dont even notice you exist let alone care out there. But again its about holding your head high, shoulders up and walking in with conviction. Exude confidence even if you aren't. Takes energy and sonetimes a good day, but can be done.

Maybe a day when you're feeling on top of the world is the day to try it. Take yourself out for a treat to celebrate a good day. Push that energy to your body and smile. Stand tall because you are great in yourself.

Charlotte 😻

Here here. I agree totally. As a whipper snapper i was real shy. I just started taking small steps out of my comfort zone..it does work

[Dawn Kellie]

Just do something small. Go out and set in a café with a coffee or tea. Read the news. Just do that a few times then get a pastry one day. If it get overwhelming take the pastry home. You don't have to scream I'm here alone. Just enjoy a nice day or some kind of win in your life. You don't have to do it the first time, just getting into the mind set I want to do this will open you up.

[Stottie Girl]

I don't have much self esteem or confidence for a multitude of reasons. I'm a bit broken on that front to be fair. I'm a solitary creature.

[Dawn Kellie]

Self esteem is a myth. Everyone has low self esteem, it's just how they hide it. You are beautiful and smart you deserve happiness. Always know you have friends that love you.
My father told me that he and my mom where raising my brother different because they felt they made mistakes with me. I was a teen at the time. That's a self esteem crusher.
When you are ready you will be fabulous.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

I don't have much self esteem or confidence for a multitude of reasons. I'm a bit broken on that front to be fair. I'm a solitary creature.

You've still got to do things at your pace and that make you happy however. Please dont feel like I'm ever saying you should be a certain way,  as i know how tough it is when your mind is telling you something. Whats easy for one is impossible for another. But I'm here if you ever need encouragement or anything to help you along. We'll all get there...in our own time...our own way 🙂

Charlotte 😻

[Dawn Kellie]

You've still got to do things at your pace and that make you happy however. Please dont feel like I'm ever saying you should be a certain way,  as i know how tough it is when your mind is telling you something. Whats easy for one is impossible for another. But I'm here if you ever need encouragement or anything to help you along. We'll all get there...in our own time...our own way 🙂

Charlotte 😻

Again here here
I will also be there for you.

[Dawn Kellie]

Please no there is no pressure. Im just trying to encourage not push

[Lori Dee ✅]

I am a solitary creature as well, so I understand.

We are not pushing. We see what a wonderful and beautiful woman you are, and we just think the world would be a better place with you shining on more of it.

Big Hugs!

[ChrissyRyan]

Wishing the best to each of you.


Chrissy

[PhilippaRees]

I go to restaurants alone. I'm a bit out going and will start a conversation with anyone.  My daughters can't do this. I've had some great conversations and not so great. My daughters say I'm weird

Apart from being too shy for that, I would feel like I'm table blocking. I don't even go into cafe's on my own. It's silly really, Single people have a right to enjoy the nice things in life too.

I travel for work quite a lot, If I didn't go to a restaurant alone I would starve. You get used to it pretty quick, no one looks or cares if its just you at a table. If I want to be left alone I sit at a table and if I want to chat or be quick I sit at the bar or counter. There are always single seats at the counter and someone who asks if my English accent is Australian.

[PhilippaRees]

Just do something small. Go out and set in a café with a coffee or tea. Read the news. Just do that a few times then get a pastry one day. If it get overwhelming take the pastry home. You don't have to scream I'm here alone. Just enjoy a nice day or some kind of win in your life. You don't have to do it the first time, just getting into the mind set I want to do this will open you up.

Thats what I have been doing since I got back to the UK to get used to going out dressed as Philippa.
I often go to a coffee shop where I am a regular, in the morning and sit with a coffee and croissant and read the news. Its usually full of single people with laptops anyway. I wear my Tshirt dress and leggings so it looks like I'm being sporty. No one has shown any sign they noticed.

[Stottie Girl]

Thanks ladies. It's appreciated. I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the moment. The loneliness is getting on top of me a bit here. I'm not much company so I think I'm going to turn in and try again tomorrow. Sorry if I'm being a bit of a debbie downer.

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

Thanks ladies. It's appreciated. I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the moment. The loneliness is getting on top of me a bit here. I'm not much company so I think I'm going to turn in and try again tomorrow. Sorry if I'm being a bit of a debbie downer.

Night night. Hope you have a nice sleep.

Love and hugz. Charlotte xx

[Dawn Kellie]

You let it out and we will listen. If you don't like my advice, I will stop.

You are loved and looked up to.
Get some rest and start over in the morning