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Lori Dee ✅

#360
April 26, 2026, 02:11:01 PM
Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on April 26, 2026, 02:06:00 PMMaybe a day when you're feeling on top of the world is the day to try it. Take yourself out for a treat to celebrate a good day. Push that energy to your body and smile. Stand tall because you are great in yourself.

That's good advice. It doesn't have to be an hour-long seven-course meal. Just go for ice cream, sit, and enjoy it. As Charlotte said, most people are not paying attention. They are in their own little world, and you are not a part of that. Be brave, Little Sister. Walk in like you own the place, and everyone will assume you do (except the owners).

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Dawn Kellie

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April 26, 2026, 02:17:56 PM
Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on April 26, 2026, 02:06:00 PMAwwww i wish I could give you some of my dont give a ____ energy! I totally get it though as i was similar at one time. But then I started my job and got sent to China, USA, Sweden etc all alone. So i ended up eating alone sometimes and those fears along with many others went.

Sometimes things come up in life that push you forwards however uncomfortable it is at first.

But honestly most people dont even notice you exist let alone care out there. But again its about holding your head high, shoulders up and walking in with conviction. Exude confidence even if you aren't. Takes energy and sonetimes a good day, but can be done.

Maybe a day when you're feeling on top of the world is the day to try it. Take yourself out for a treat to celebrate a good day. Push that energy to your body and smile. Stand tall because you are great in yourself.

Charlotte 😻

Here here. I agree totally. As a whipper snapper i was real shy. I just started taking small steps out of my comfort zone..it does work
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It's harder to love and create than hate and destroy. Love and creation takes more energy. Where hate and destruction can be done with a single word that can haunt you for a life time.
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Dawn Kellie

#362
April 26, 2026, 02:23:46 PM
Just do something small. Go out and set in a café with a coffee or tea. Read the news. Just do that a few times then get a pastry one day. If it get overwhelming take the pastry home. You don't have to scream I'm here alone. Just enjoy a nice day or some kind of win in your life. You don't have to do it the first time, just getting into the mind set I want to do this will open you up.
D. KELLIE Kn.

It's harder to love and create than hate and destroy. Love and creation takes more energy. Where hate and destruction can be done with a single word that can haunt you for a life time.
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Stottie Girl

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April 26, 2026, 02:24:58 PM
I don't have much self esteem or confidence for a multitude of reasons. I'm a bit broken on that front to be fair. I'm a solitary creature.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley
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Dawn Kellie

#364
April 26, 2026, 02:32:42 PM
Self esteem is a myth. Everyone has low self esteem, it's just how they hide it. You are beautiful and smart you deserve happiness. Always know you have friends that love you.
My father told me that he and my mom where raising my brother different because they felt they made mistakes with me. I was a teen at the time. That's a self esteem crusher.
When you are ready you will be fabulous.
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It's harder to love and create than hate and destroy. Love and creation takes more energy. Where hate and destruction can be done with a single word that can haunt you for a life time.

Charlotte Kitty ✅

#365
April 26, 2026, 02:33:17 PM
Quote from: Stottie Girl on April 26, 2026, 02:24:58 PMI don't have much self esteem or confidence for a multitude of reasons. I'm a bit broken on that front to be fair. I'm a solitary creature.

You've still got to do things at your pace and that make you happy however. Please dont feel like I'm ever saying you should be a certain way,  as i know how tough it is when your mind is telling you something. Whats easy for one is impossible for another. But I'm here if you ever need encouragement or anything to help you along. We'll all get there...in our own time...our own way 🙂

Charlotte 😻
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Dawn Kellie

#366
April 26, 2026, 02:38:29 PM
Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on April 26, 2026, 02:33:17 PMYou've still got to do things at your pace and that make you happy however. Please dont feel like I'm ever saying you should be a certain way,  as i know how tough it is when your mind is telling you something. Whats easy for one is impossible for another. But I'm here if you ever need encouragement or anything to help you along. We'll all get there...in our own time...our own way 🙂

Charlotte 😻

Again here here
I will also be there for you.
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Dawn Kellie

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April 26, 2026, 02:40:06 PM
Please no there is no pressure. Im just trying to encourage not push
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Lori Dee ✅

#368
April 26, 2026, 04:17:24 PM
I am a solitary creature as well, so I understand.

We are not pushing. We see what a wonderful and beautiful woman you are, and we just think the world would be a better place with you shining on more of it.

Big Hugs!
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ChrissyRyan

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April 26, 2026, 04:19:53 PM
Wishing the best to each of you.


Chrissy

Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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PhilippaRees

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April 26, 2026, 04:23:29 PM
Quote from: Stottie Girl on April 26, 2026, 01:38:07 PM
Quote from: Dawn Kellie on April 26, 2026, 01:33:10 PMI go to restaurants alone. I'm a bit out going and will start a conversation with anyone.  My daughters can't do this. I've had some great conversations and not so great. My daughters say I'm weird
Apart from being too shy for that, I would feel like I'm table blocking. I don't even go into cafe's on my own. It's silly really, Single people have a right to enjoy the nice things in life too.

I travel for work quite a lot, If I didn't go to a restaurant alone I would starve. You get used to it pretty quick, no one looks or cares if its just you at a table. If I want to be left alone I sit at a table and if I want to chat or be quick I sit at the bar or counter. There are always single seats at the counter and someone who asks if my English accent is Australian.

PhilippaRees

#371
April 26, 2026, 04:31:18 PM
Quote from: Dawn Kellie on April 26, 2026, 02:23:46 PMJust do something small. Go out and set in a café with a coffee or tea. Read the news. Just do that a few times then get a pastry one day. If it get overwhelming take the pastry home. You don't have to scream I'm here alone. Just enjoy a nice day or some kind of win in your life. You don't have to do it the first time, just getting into the mind set I want to do this will open you up.

Thats what I have been doing since I got back to the UK to get used to going out dressed as Philippa.
I often go to a coffee shop where I am a regular, in the morning and sit with a coffee and croissant and read the news. Its usually full of single people with laptops anyway. I wear my Tshirt dress and leggings so it looks like I'm being sporty. No one has shown any sign they noticed.

Stottie Girl

#372
April 26, 2026, 04:57:24 PM
Thanks ladies. It's appreciated. I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the moment. The loneliness is getting on top of me a bit here. I'm not much company so I think I'm going to turn in and try again tomorrow. Sorry if I'm being a bit of a debbie downer.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley
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Charlotte Kitty ✅

#373
April 26, 2026, 04:58:56 PM
Quote from: Stottie Girl on April 26, 2026, 04:57:24 PMThanks ladies. It's appreciated. I'm a bit of an emotional wreck at the moment. The loneliness is getting on top of me a bit here. I'm not much company so I think I'm going to turn in and try again tomorrow. Sorry if I'm being a bit of a debbie downer.

Night night. Hope you have a nice sleep.

Love and hugz. Charlotte xx
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I feel like the intersection of dark and light. I have a dark soul residing in me but an intense draw to the powers of good. All around I feel the constant battle between darkness and light.

Dawn Kellie

#374
April 26, 2026, 05:19:28 PM
You let it out and we will listen. If you don't like my advice, I will stop.

You are loved and looked up to.
Get some rest and start over in the morning
D. KELLIE Kn.

It's harder to love and create than hate and destroy. Love and creation takes more energy. Where hate and destruction can be done with a single word that can haunt you for a life time.

Stottie Girl

#375
April 27, 2026, 02:10:58 AM
I don't know what came over me last night. I cried non stop for an hour and a half last night. I'm normally pretty upbeat. I think the enormity of having to deal with all this on my own just got to me a bit. Plus I might still be suffering a bit of a panic hangover from Friday.

I like to try to lift other people up on here and make them smile if I can, I'm not very good when I'm in the doldrums like last night. I don't like to post my woes on here if I can help it. Sorry for being miserable.

The sun is shinning this morning. I have a lecture at 12:00-14:00 which gives me some focus for the day so hopefully I will be a bit brighter.
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley

Charlotte Kitty ✅

#376
April 27, 2026, 02:14:48 AM
Quote from: Stottie Girl on April 27, 2026, 02:10:58 AMI don't know what came over me last night. I cried non stop for an hour and a half last night. I'm normally pretty upbeat. I think the enormity of having to deal with all this on my own just got to me a bit. Plus I might still be suffering a bit of a panic hangover from Friday.

I like to try to lift other people up on here and make them smile if I can, I'm not very good when I'm in the doldrums like last night. I don't like to post my woes on here if I can help it. Sorry for being miserable.

The sun is shinning this morning. I have a lecture at 12:00-14:00 which gives me some focus for the day so hopefully I will be a bit brighter.

Hope that you have a lovely day today and feel better. Always happy to see your posts no matter how you're feeling. We are often good at helping others but less so ourselves. Guess thats just the nature of life.

Charlotte x
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Lover of fashion and cute stuff!
Kawaii, Hello Kitty, Care bears 🐻
Agender/Genderqueer/Demonkin.

I feel like the intersection of dark and light. I have a dark soul residing in me but an intense draw to the powers of good. All around I feel the constant battle between darkness and light.

davina61

#377
April 27, 2026, 03:50:13 AM
A bit late to this post but first time I went out to the shops I thought everyone would stare, not a look or glance! Be positive and no one will notice.I am a loner as well, always been happy in my own company as long as I have something to occupy my brain.
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Stottie Girl

#378
April 27, 2026, 05:03:25 AM
Quote from: davina61 on April 27, 2026, 03:50:13 AMA bit late to this post but first time I went out to the shops I thought everyone would stare, not a look or glance! Be positive and no one will notice.I am a loner as well, always been happy in my own company as long as I have something to occupy my brain.
I have always been happy being alone with myself but until a few years ago I did have a circle of friends I could go to the pub with and unwind but after covid (people don't go out as much anymore it seems) and after an unreconcilable bustup with one of my oldest friends (I still don't know why), I have ended up with just a single friend left. I think being on here and being chatty to everyone and getting to know people and share my thoughts and feelings has made realise how alone I am IRL. It just gets on top of me from time to time.

It's nothing to do with being out as I'm not actually doing that right now but that is a looming challenge in itself. A lot of people on here have significant others in their lives and it makes me a little bit sad that I don't have that and never have had that. I go through phases like this but I'll be ok in a bit Davina. Going through transition with no one around you is a scary prospect is all. Thanks for the pep talk though, it's appreciated😀
A wise man once said don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes, that way when you judge him you're a mile away and you have his shoes!

Never trust a man who, when left alone in a room with a tea cozy, doesn't try it on - Billy Connolley

big kim

#379
April 27, 2026, 05:09:56 AM
Thought I was the only one doing restaurant dining alone! Haven't done it for a long time
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