Transphobic Crossdressers

[Liz K]

This has been on my mind a lot the last few days.  I recently encountered a group of transphobic crossdressers.  They said the trans community has gotten too loud.  Too visible.  We celebrate too much.  We expect everyone to share our values.  We've pushed our agenda too far and created a backlash.  Backlash that's ruining things for them.  They say we should be happy for what we have and be quiet.  I could go on.  You've heard it all before.

I know most crossdressers aren't like that.  But it saddens me that there are some CDs who want nothing to do with our community.  Instead, they spread disinformation and support policies that make our lives harder.  They fail to understand that the freedom they take for granted was fought for by the community they reject.  They refuse to accept that the average cis-person who sees them on the street thinks they're trans.

Can't we all just coexist?  End of sad rant.

[Stottie Girl]

I am astonished there is such a thing as Transphobic crossdressers! You would think those two statements were mutually exclusive!

I suppose there could be an argument that (at least in the UK) it maybe went too far too fast and didn't really give society time to adjust and accept but we have been in the shadows for so long, why shouldn't we want to express new found freedoms?

I too wish we could all just co-exist but we are currently public enemy no.1 in the media for some reason and as long as that continues we are going to face persecution and transphobia. It's a sorry state of affairs but it does seem to me that while we are definitely moving in the wrong direction it is still lightyears ahead of where trans issues were when I was growing up. When viewed in that context it isn't as bad as it seems.

We can only hope attitudes start to change or the spotlight in the media shifts to their next victim.

[Liz K]

I'm with you.  You'd think 'transphobic crossdresser' to be an oxymoron.  But they're out there.  TBH, I've had a few other encounters.  But this is the first time a group of them piled on with their vitriol.

I'm confident things will change for the better.  The question is when and at what price.  When younger generations leverage their political clout at the voting booth and on the ballot, things will improve.  But the dark money powers that run our governments must be dismantled for there to be long-term coexistence.  That will be a long and difficult process.

[ChrissyRyan]

This scenario is hard for me to grasp.  An unfortunate phenomenon it is.

[KathyLauren]

Those transphobic crossdressers are the people that society hates.  Society thinks they are us. 

[big kim]

As bad as things are today they're nowhere near as bad as the late 80s/early 90s when I transitioned.
Met a few transphobic cross dressers in the past. It's always been in the background.

[Dawn Kellie]

I read this earlier today and was left without words. 
As being someone that started out thinking I was a crossdresses to realizing I am transgender this is just unfathomable. 
I don't think that group realizes what the transgender community has done for them.
Some people just don't know the good that some do for them. All you can do is shake your head and walk away. Maybe mumbling questions about their intelligence and their lineage.

[Liz K]

As being someone that started out thinking I was a crossdresses to realizing I am transgender this is just unfathomable. 
I don't think that group realizes what the transgender community has done for them.

I crossdressed for years.  It was my only outlet to (badly) manage my dysphoria.  Ultimately, crossdressing helped me realize I'm trans.  It wasn't just the clothes.  It was living as ME for a few days at time.  Then I'd go back to my 'guy life' and feel worse.  Rinse and repeat for a couple of years and things came sharply into focus.  Even though I'm trans, I still have lots of CD friends.  I still feel a connection to that community.

And yes, I agree that some CDs don't realize what the trans community has done for them.  Or in my most recent experience, actively reject the idea that they have a connection with our community.  Sigh.