Krista’s Celebrations and Doubts

[davina61]

When I have been out with my mum we get called ladies, yes it gives you a buzz.

[Petunia]

Back in my old crossdressing days I helped my wife conquer heels.  I don't know why but it was just easy.  Maybe I spent too much time watching women.

These days I don't see too many women in heels but a lot of those I see seem to be struggling.

I have to stop myself from complimenting their shoe choice and trying to help them walk

[KristaFairchild]

It's skirt day! 

I've wanted to wear a skirt to work for months but somehow my mind believes two things at once. 

1. I'm visibly trans and most people know it at work. 
2. No one is quite sure I'm trans and adding a skirt would be a confirmation. 

Let's see...daily look has foundation, lipstick, eye makeup, earrings, women's blouses, and women's slacks. Sometimes heels and red lipstick and nails. 

Raise your hand for #1. Ok...many of you. #2? Anyone? Anyone? 

Ok, I'll wear the skirt today. Wish me luck. 

[Charlotte Kitty ✅]

I wore skirts and dresses at work before I officially worked out I was trans. So wearing a skirt doesn't automatically say you're trans, although people will certainly wonder!

I think you'll be fine from what you say. Enjoy X

[Dances With Trees]

Best of luck, Krista! Not that you'll need it--you've got this, Girl!

[Lori Dee ✅]

Both #1 and #2 can be true at the same time.

And it really doesn't matter either way as long as you are safe.

I hope it turns out well! Let us know how it went.

[Petunia]

Krista, I was going to say 1 but on reflection I say 1 or 2.

Like Lori says, either way it doesn't matter as long as you are safe.

People will probably keep guessing until you tell them. 

[Alana Ashleigh]

Good luck, Krista.
You got this.

[ChrissyRyan]

It's skirt day!

I've wanted to wear a skirt to work for months but somehow my mind believes two things at once.

1. I'm visibly trans and most people know it at work.
2. No one is quite sure I'm trans and adding a skirt would be a confirmation.

Let's see...daily look has foundation, lipstick, eye makeup, earrings, women's blouses, and women's slacks. Sometimes heels and red lipstick and nails.

Raise your hand for #1. Ok...many of you. #2? Anyone? Anyone?

Ok, I'll wear the skirt today. Wish me luck.

Let us know if you wore the skirt and if you received the reaction you desired.
Skirts and dresses are items most people would associate with women, so if you want them to think you are transgender, wearing a skirt would be a very strong indicator that you are.

I did not have much of a positive set of reactions the first time I wore a skirt when working.
However, over time, it is all fine.  I hope your day went terrific today, skirt or not!

Chrissy

[KristaFairchild]

I had to do some carpentry work for an exhibit in my garage this morning first. It put me in this very masculine feeling mood that I didn't like. I had to adjust my feelings and take a long, slow shower to get back in my reality.

I put on the black mini skirt, a black V-neck top, and my usual feminine makeup. I chose white stray, sandals that would show off my pink toenails. 

Friday afternoons are pretty empty at work so I only talk to two people in encountered perhaps four. I couldn't read any change in anybody's reaction to mr and that that's a win. 

Most important is that I felt fabulous! Thank you all for checking in on me. ❤️

[Stottie Girl]

I had to do some carpentry work for an exhibit in my garage this morning first. It put me in this very masculine feeling mood that I didn't like. I had to adjust my feelings and take a long, slow shower to get back in my reality.

I put on the black mini skirt, a black V-neck top, and my usual feminine makeup. I chose white stray, sandals that would show off my pink toenails.

Friday afternoons are pretty empty at work so I only talk to two people in encountered perhaps four. I couldn't read any change in anybody's reaction to mr and that that's a win.

Most important is that I felt fabulous! Thank you all for checking in on me. ❤️

I work with wood as a hobby, whilst it is a stereotypicaly male pursuit there are many women who enjoy the creative side of it. I'm a big fan of Larissa Huff in the states for example, she's beautiful, works with wood and produces amazing work. She is one of many. You do not have to be a man to enjoy male dominated hobbies.

[davina61]

I build hot rods, there are a lot of women that do. I also just like making things out of metal, making items into lamps and clocks. I made a unit out of ply to house my record collection and stand my record player and amp on, that turned out okay .

[KristaFairchild]

I work with wood as a hobby, whilst it is a stereotypicaly male pursuit there are many women who enjoy the creative side of it. I'm a big fan of Larissa Huff in the states for example, she's beautiful, works with wood and produces amazing work. She is one of many. You do not have to be a man to enjoy male dominated hobbies.

I agree! That was just the effect on me in that moment, and my own rather sexist limitation. I will do better and I appreciate your perspective!

I'm also terrible at woodworking. No. I'll reset that negative self-talk. I've done basic work successfully, but was using new skills and having to redo things. And swear.  A lot. Like a trans sailor. Hence the slow shower and mood reset. 

[KristaFairchild]

I build hot rods, there are a lot of women that do. I also just like making things out of metal, making items into lamps and clocks. I made a unit out of ply to house my record collection and stand my record player and amp on, that turned out okay .

As I stumble my into my new identity, I'm in some ways becoming more...chauvinistic? Maybe that's the word. 

When I perceived myself as male, I was aware of sexist assumptions. A mechanic calls a woman honey? I heard that and would hope it wasn't meant to be condescending. A few days ago a mechanic called ME honey and I kind of blushed and glowed. 

I've been working on my staff to quit calling groups of people "guys". A phrase like "I met this girl and..." made me wonder if they were talking about a kid. Usually not. 

But now I'm unthinkingly adopting certain female stereotypes. WOMEN wear dresses and makeup. It feels good to do certain traditionally female things. Women walk many different ways, but I feel best when my hips sway and my arms swing in a way that feels men's arms do. Women have a huge range of voices and I want mine to land closer to the middle of that range. I always notice on TV when a man leads a woman by her elbow. WTF? Would the reverse ever happen? It angers me. But now I would swoon if an attractive man took me gently by the elbow...and I'm primarily attracted to women (and happily married to one). 

It reminds of a parallel that was shared with me by a Lakota man in South Dakota. He was sharing that many nations were dwindling, losing their languages and culture. He was explaining why many people of Native American ancestry were seeking knowledge of the Lakota and its rich culture. 

He said, "They just want something Indian."

And I "just want something female."

After decades of overt feminism, part of me is becoming a housewife from the mid-20th century. Part of me wants to be a Bond girl from Goldfinger. Or a woman executive in a power suit. I'm grasping at anything that feels female to me when I choose my clothes to align myself in ways that feel right. 

I don't plan to stay in this place. Maybe that why it's called transition. 🏳��⚧️ 

The great thing about blogging is people respond in ways that make me reflect on my journey. I'm grateful! ❤️🥰

[Stottie Girl]

Krista, you don't have to choose between worlds.

I love woodworking (though i'm still a total newbie), my main passion is wildlife and landscape photography, I used to build and maintain road bikes all of which are male dominated hobbies BUT at the same time I love cooking and baking, I like reading, enjoy gardening, I love to wear feminine clothing, I love doing my make up and being as feminine as I can be.

I would absolutely love to have a man (or woman) treat me like a lady. I think I might be putty in their hands if they did ! I'm no militant feminist, though I will speak out when this behaviour strays into chauvinism or misogyny.

Be the woman you want to be Krista. Feminimity doesn't come with a manual or unbreakable limitations. Find your own way and above all, be happy with your choices.

[davina61]

Oh when I am not in my workshop I am full on female well more so than in my workshop!!

[KristaFairchild]

It happened again. 

I played disc golf with my kids this morning. I love being with them! The terrain lands me in androgynous presentation and I came home thinking, "Could I go back to this?

Then opened an En Femme email and got teary eyed. 

I can't and I don't want to. 

[Dawn Kellie]

I have an email for Kellie now.
I haven't played Frisbee golf in 3 years. I had a blast

[KristaFairchild]

I have an email for Kellie now.
I haven't played Frisbee golf in 3 years. I had a blast

It's wonderful to have a digital presence as Krista. In here it's my only name and I love it. I also have a Gmail account and Zoom. I use a task list daily and use Siri to add items. She says "I've added it to the Krista list" and I smile. I love opening my Krista Drive, full of joy. 

I've been playing disc golf before pole holes were invented, 50 years. I still can't putt! 🤣🤣🤣

[Stottie Girl]

It's wonderful to have a digital presence as Krista. In here it's my only name and I love it. I also have a Gmail account and Zoom. I use a task list daily and use Siri to add items. She says "I've added it to the Krista list" and I smile. I love opening my Krista Drive, full of joy.

I've been playing disc golf before pole holes were invented, 50 years. I still can't putt! 🤣🤣🤣

I must admit, coming on to SP has been a huge sense of relief to me. To be able to interact as the real me with likeminded people is so liberating. My female inner self has grown so much since January I'm starting to think it's unstoppable. It is so nice to be me, to not have to put on an act.

I played disc golf once in Scotland about 20 years ago ish. It was fun but I prefer the real thing. Britain is a windy country so maybe not the best for throwing frisbes accurately!