Is it really the time we lost or what we do now?

[CosmicJoke]

Hi everyone. This is just a question that has been stuck on my mind lately so I figured I might as well ask it.

I transitioned earlier than probably most here but sometimes I still reflect on my past/what could have been done differently. Much of my life was initially spent "not being too girly" in order to be more acceptable to others. I did this pretty much all through my childhood and teen years but never really found actual satisfaction from doing it.

Fast forward to now I am 34 and practically "done" with transition. Sometimes I look back on who I used to be but then I wonder if maybe i'm not really missing a thing?

I'm just interested in what some of your experiences are? Were they similar to mine? Do you think the time "lost" is really all that important or is it more important what you do with now?

[KristaFairchild]

Lost time is sad, but for me I work hard to live in the present. I would have made an adorable young woman with my thick head of curls! Now they are thin. 

But I'm becoming me, publicly. I have years areas of me and I have right now, when I am dressing up fully femme for a trans meeting 😀

[Lori Dee ✅]

I don't focus on what could have been. Would've, should've, and could've are all irrelevant because they did not happen. Instead, I focus on the person I am today. Much of that is due to the person I was, the lessons I learned, and the experiences I had.

Would I have done it differently if I had the chance? Sure. Who wouldn't?

But then I would be someone different than who I am now. I am not certain that my life would have been any better.

Young women struggle in life, just like everyone else. The only difference is the nature of those struggles. I don't see them as being any better or worse than what I have been through, so I focus on today and what I can do to prepare for tomorrow.