Quote from: tammy753 on June 21, 2026, 05:56:59 AMSo I have a couple pairs. one pair works but my favorite have gold buttons on the front so they are very obviously women's. I just bought new jeans so hopefully they will be less obvious. I am making a plan to come out to my brother. once I do that I won't care as much.
I had to go through this and most of have to live it for weeks, months, or years. Not wanting anything too obviously female while also craving to just BE female.
I thought every step made me stand out as "a guy in women's __________".
At each step, it seemed like no one clocked me.not my friends and not strangers. Maybe somone did and said nothing? Saw but didn't even give me an up and down look? Women's skinny jeans? No comments. Two metal stud earrings? Some compliments. Nothing else. Pretty studs got the same response. Clear nail polish was visibly noticed once without comment.
Over a year later it was colored nail polish, dangly earrings, v-neck feline blouses, full makeup (though not blatant), and still no one is saying anything.
I was actually frustrated! I swear I would not be noticed or called ma'am until I added a skirt, heels, a wig and sometimes breast forms with obvious makeup and red lipstick.
I suggest you keep a gender journey journal. Rereading mine shows patterns that have helped me.
As for stealth clothes... women's jeans, women's collared blouses (how I loved fumbling with the buttons), undergarments, bracelets that could pass as men's or that hid under the cuffs, blurring serum, and light foundation. I hid some things at home from my family.
Don't forget to enjoy what you feel safe to do.
