I spent a lot of time on YouTube (TransVoiceLessons) trying the various exercises. I learned a lot, but had no one to provide me with feedback. At that time, the VA said they could provide Voice Therapy. My doctor submitted the request, and it was denied, stating the voice pathologist wouldn't/couldn't do it. Several months later, the local VA LGBTQ Care Coordinator told us about a new program for voice coaching. She submitted the request for me, and it was approved.
The sessions were via telehealth video sessions with a voice therapist in Iowa (I was in South Dakota). I learned a lot from her, and she was able to listen and watch me speak, so she could tell what I was doing and how I was doing it. I spent six months with her, then the oppressive regime canceled my therapy coverage, reassigned our LGBTQ Care Coordinator, and shut down our LGBTQ Support Group.
My voice is far from perfect. It has changed a lot from what it was, but I still get misgendered on the phone. Like Ashley, I don't want to have to think about how I am speaking when I'm just trying to say something. When I am dressed en-femme, my voice doesn't seem to factor into people's impressions, so I haven't done much work on it. When I am on the phone, I still try to change it, but it doesn't seem to matter because they can't see me and misgender me anyway. I have gotten to the point where I don't care anymore. People can think what they want.