Social interaction as you transition

[ChrissyRyan]

It is good to get out, safely.  One venue can be a community book reading group or a Scrabble or card playing group or maybe a photography group or club.

You will know if they seem to be accepting after a visit or maybe two.  Try to find something you enjoy and you know other people are interested in and find a safe group to visit, and participate.

These groups do not need to be transgender only groups!  Just one that fits your interest and they treat you fairly.  Go a bit androgynous if that gives you more comfort on your first visit.  Also, try to do some volunteer work, that may be so good for you and others.


Chrissy

[noleen111]

I think, what is important with social interactions, is too be able blend in. That was always my target.

for example, if you go out for a coffee, women don't dress up in a ballgown to have a coffee.

Take note how women your age dress in social situations..

I work in the retail environment, a dress shop, and we use to have a this trans-women come in, and she stood out, she always over dressed.. My floor girls, use to laugh at her, i always felt bad and often helped her personally, I always tried to make her feel welcome. I told my girls, there money is just as good as everyone else's.

[Stottie Girl]

I think, what is important with social interactions, is too be able blend in. That was always my target.

for example, if you go out for a coffee, women don't dress up in a ballgown to have a coffee.

Take note how women your age dress in social situations..

I work in the retail environment, a dress shop, and we use to have a this trans-women come in, and she stood out, she always over dressed.. My floor girls, use to laugh at her, i always felt bad and often helped her personally, I always tried to make her feel welcome. I told my girls, there money is just as good as everyone else's.

This is what I'm aiming to achieve. I believe if you clearly making the effort to pass you will find social interractions and relationships will become easier (I wish it wasn't this way but I think that's where society is right now). When I get out there in the real world I just want to be able to blend into society as a normal CIS woman. I do not want to make that jump until I am passing to the best of my abilities. I think I am more likely to be accepted that way. I have no desire to trick anybody, if they are close or if they need to know I will tell them but for everyone else I want them to think I am just another plump CIS girl waddling her way through life!

Everyone is different though and I can totally understand that for some it is like a champagne cork popping and they want to get out there and experience everything and start living the female life as soon as possible. There is no right way or wrong way. Do what you think is right for you I guess.