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Yesterday at 07:12:44 PM
I want to start by saying I am in no way asking for financial donations.-. I am a transgender individual and have known this since I was a teenager. Due to my career in the military I have never been public with my identity and I try to gaurd it as much as possible, especially right now. When my career is over I plan to fully transition. I understand if due to my career no one wants to help, it's a complicated issue. That being said I have a work trip to the San Fransisco area soon and I plan on taking one night to fully present as female for the first time. That being said I'm struggling to save money to purchase gender affirming clothing wigs makeup and shapewear due to unexpected bills and I'm out of time to save back up. Are there any resources I might qualify in the area for this?  I've done a search and I'm not sure what access I might have to resources. I understand due to my large frame I won't be totally passable but I think Sam Fransisco may be my one shot at some level of acceptance. Also, Does anyone have recommendations on places to go or avoid to make sure I have a good time? I also posted this in the military community for advice.

Maid Marion

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Yesterday at 07:33:56 PM
Welcome!

There are places in the United States where it isn't necessary to pass.
I had a co-worker who moved to Hartford Connecticut.  She is big and tall.

Marion

ChrissyRyan

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Yesterday at 08:17:12 PM
I suggest trying to find a transgender support group to see if they have a clothing swap or a free supply of clothing donations.  Thrift stores are also a good source of lower cost items.


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Yesterday at 08:24:46 PM
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Yesterday at 08:34:56 PM
Hi Hope_ful

My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

Although I live in Australia and of course cannot really help out.  I hope you are able to find some helpful local resources and have a safe positive experience while you are there.  San Francisco has a large LGBTQ+ community I believe so hopefully someone local can point you toward affordable clothing, makeup or community organizations that may be able to help.

Wishing you the best and I hope the night gives you a chance to feel comfortable being yourself.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members.

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

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Take care and all the best for the future.

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Yesterday at 08:37:17 PM
Quote from: Hope_ful on Yesterday at 07:54:13 PMI want to start by saying I am in no way asking for financial donations.-. I am a transgender individual and have known this since I was a teenager. Due to my career in the military I have never been public with my identity and I try to gaurd it as much as possible, especially right now. When my career is over I plan to fully transition. I understand if due to my career no one wants to help, it's a complicated issue. That being said I have a work trip to the San Fransisco area soon and I plan on taking one night to fully present as female for the first time. That being said I'm struggling to save money to purchase gender affirming clothing wigs makeup and shapewear due to unexpected bills and I'm out of time to save back up. Are there any resources I might qualify in the area for this?  I've done a search and I'm not sure what access I might have to resources. I understand due to my large frame I won't be totally passable but I think Sam Fransisco may be my one shot at some level of acceptance. Also, Does anyone have recommendations on places to go or avoid to make sure I have a good time? I also posted this in the military community for advice.

Hello Hope!

Welcome to the forum little sister and kudos on finding the courage to seek, finally, a bit of expression of the soul within you!...Many of my first ventures out en femme back in 2013 were in the San Francisco and San Jose area... if you go out walking around The Castro District to take in the sights, you should have zero issues, you can park close by... perhaps get a room for the night at The Inn On Castro... Cafe Mystique is one of many spots for a nice  dinner!

There used to be a place called Carla's Boutique in San Jose that provided makeup and help with dressing, wigs etc... sadly they closed many years ago but there may be a similar service around there if you do some online footwork...

There was, and possibly still is, a TG/CD Meetup group in SF... you might join online and see if any of their dinner meetups coincide with when you will be in The City!

Thank you for your service sister and keep moving toward what you truly want your life to be... Amazing things await you!

Onward Brave Sister!

Ashley 💕
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻

tgirlamg

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Yesterday at 08:48:01 PM
Hope,

The start of this video always reminds me of my first times out walking around in public... No one cared or even gave me a second glance as I explored my world through new eyes... 🌻


Onward Girl

Ashley 💕
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻

tgirlamg

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Yesterday at 08:56:33 PM
There is a TG/CD club called Divas I went to once in 2013 but it is in a pretty rough area near The Tenderloin District... I was with a couple wing-girls at the time... We had fun! 😅
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

Ashley's Corner: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247549.0.html 🌻
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