Woman to woman connections

[Jillian-TG]

I've only recently experienced just how well women relate and connect with each other when out in public. I've posted a thread about me taking a week to live 24/7 as a woman while on a cruise with my wife. It's been an interesting experience. I noticed how often other women would smile and make eye contact when out and about the ship. They would offer compliments and say nice things. It felt like there's a hidden sisters club. And I loved being a part of it. It was amazing to have a woman tell me that I looked beautiful or being told they liked my jewelry etc. I loved being part of the sisters club.

This morning the trip came to an end and I changed back into drab mode as a man. Yuck. 🤮 What struck me immediately was that I suddenly became invisible to the women. It's only been a few hours but I already miss that aspect.

[Gina P]

I agree, women will come up and talk to me about my cloths or anything. As a man that was never the case. I think they are afraid to be interpreted as coming on to the men, where with women its just being friendly.

[Finally Anna]

Ladies, Gina and Jillian, are your experiences of woman-woman interactions depending on actually passing as a woman or is it more or less the same experience even if not certainly passing?

And I apologize beforehand, if my question is offensive or stupid.

[Jillian-TG]

Ladies, Gina and Jillian, are your experiences of woman-woman interactions depending on actually passing as a woman or is it more or less the same experience even if not certainly passing?

And I apologize beforehand, if my question is offensive or stupid.

I don't think I actually pass on a consistent basis. I'm in the "almost" pass category. I don't look like I'm out there cross dressing but I'm not fooling everyone either. I do dress like the average woman and nothing over the top. So I "clean up ok" as a woman but still, most people will clock me as a trans woman and maybe only a small percentage will think I'm cis.

I've found most women to be open when I am presenting as a woman - even if they clock me. When presenting as a male it's a very different experience.

Having said that - I had a couple of experiences this past week with women where I got the sense that they thought I was cis gender but I could be wrong. I wasn't asking so not sure.

[Petunia]

Anna, I found the same thing recently on a cruise. I can't pass but equally I wasn't presenting cis.

I had more female interaction than I ever had in my life.

[Finally Anna]

Thank you, Ladies!

It's not the passing as such I was curious about, but whether the "presenting as a woman" also means being included in the woman-woman interactions. And it seems like it does.

As I've written earlier I've had a few really nice evenings when just sitting with the Ladies and where my only femme attribues have been my long-ish hair, femme-ish perfume and being Anna-soft and interested in their discussions.

[ChrissyRyan]

The "Womanhood" has its nice perks.

[Christina152]

I've never been 'one of the boys' and I don't enjoy all male company.

Most of my friends at university were girls (platonically). I think they were happy to have my company as 'safe' male protection (they all had boyfriends back home) and probably thought I was gay (which I'm not, although I never had a real girlfriend).

My workplace was predominantly female and we all played sports and socialised together. As an older member of my running club, I was more comfortable running with a group of mainly younger women rather that the slower men of my own age.

I now have no close male friends and I socialise with my wife's friends. They are happy to include me and I'm happy to try and contribute to the female gossip.

[Stottie Girl]

I truly hope to be accepted among female social circles when I transition. I have had a strong dislike of the "blokes down the pub" culture, I always found myself wanting to chat to the girls in the group. same in family settings I was always really close with my female cousins and spent all family parties with them. As a heating engineer I was always chatting on endlessly with the women of the house I couldn't help myself, I can be a right chatterbox when I get going! Woman to woman connections are just deeper, more meaningful and there is no bravado, no machismo, no p*ss taking or practical joking, it's really nice.

At work I am in a team with five other women in an admin role. The surveyors and managers are all men. I am treated as just one of the girls even though they don't know I'm trans (at least I don't think they have figured it out!). I absolutely love my job because of it.

[Lori Dee ✅]

I've never been 'one of the boys' and I don't enjoy all male company.

Most of my friends at university were girls (platonically). I think they were happy to have my company as 'safe' male protection (they all had boyfriends back home) and probably thought I was gay (which I'm not, although I never had a real girlfriend).

My workplace was predominantly female and we all played sports and socialised together. As an older member of my running club, I was more comfortable running with a group of mainly younger women rather that the slower men of my own age.

I now have no close male friends and I socialise with my wife's friends. They are happy to include me and I'm happy to try and contribute to the female gossip.

This has been my experience too.

Even when I was married (all three times), I preferred to hang out with the women rather than the guys. The guys were not offended, as I was considered "safe".

It even got to the point where I was told that I was one of the girls and was often invited out with them for Girls Night Out. Again, the guys didn't mind having their wives chaperoned, and I was happy to be part of the sisterhood.

Looking back, I was the same way in school. NOW, I know why!