Quote from: Lori2000ma on July 22, 2011, 02:15:32 PM
I have heard about using HRT as a "test" but my understanding of it was that it was the androgen blockers that was the "real" test. They reduce the libido. If the crossdressing tendencies were fetishes (sexually related) then they would go away on Spiro. The transexual would not be deterred by the loss of libido - hence the test.
Julie
Hi ,
I don't know about that
until yesterday I would have been agree
but yesterday I found some articles about transvestic fetishism , and it seems that is more complex than being sexually aroused by the clothes .
I really want myself to be a woman
but yesterday was one of the worst days ever , when I found those things
that you could have behavioral fetishes and so on
For me , I started HRT with estrogen and androgen blockers on 18th of January this year , I don't have any libido at all and it doesn't bother me (which Is a big deal since before hrt my whole life was about sex) . I am ok with no sexual libido , although I have some pleasure/desire thinking of sexual acts there is no physical response , only a mental pleasure different from the ones I experienced before ) , and I feel very good about getting a better feminine body (i don't know if it is the rush of getting something new , a challenge , some activity to get out from my boring life , an icon of the new life i want to start)
A problem would be that I had/have no hate on my male body , it wasn't very hairy , bulky or something like that but I had and still have some muscles , I don't know If it is a personality trait of me liking muscles , if it is the habit since the days I had to have muscle to be cool and a sex symbol , me getting used to that look for some years , or that i am not a girl - if i were one i would have hate a male body , or anything else , but clearly is a masculine feature for a person no matter the gender
However the idea is that those studies and classifications induced me the thoughts that I could be a transvestite even though I do not crossdress for direct sexual gratification , or maybe I am not aware that all the feminization of the body and mind is to be attractive as a girl and that implies also a sexual fetish
Another factor is that i am a very erotic person , with lots of pleasures and an open mind , so i have lots of 'fetishes' ,like the society calls them , so that make it easy to seem that the feminity is just a fetish not a reality , The worst part is that makes sense for me , seem possible and i hate that .
But if traits that describe out way to be (even if they are learnt / acquired ) are called fetishes maybe it is not bad that my femininity is a 'fetish' - that is just me , a trait of mine .
I just hope their theories and point of views were wrong.
Also they said that the fetish could develop into a gender dysphoria (and that is both good and bad for me , I want to be a real girl , not only a crossdresser , but the 'man made' gender dysphoria , especially one resulted from sexual fetishes ,doesn't sound as respectable/genuine as a real one)
It seem that no matter how hard I want , all the science prove that I am not as much of girl as others
I would like seeing a therapist , but I don't 'trust' them : if I can't understand myself , how could they really understand me. They would observe form an image and classify me in a category by my 'output ' opinions , description of self , but those vary a lot depending on my approach on self , by the knowledge and experiences i have .
I also tend not to trust those gender tests , especially that because of my personality , I tend to alter the real results of the test by knowing that is a test and , including at an unconscious level , altering the responses .
The only way I believe they could help me is encouraging me in transition and inducing me that I am a girl .
Also I tend to act in a way , because I don't interact with people too much (in fact , I don't interact at all with other people for days ) when I will see a therapist I will try to 'be' somehow : either I will try to behave in a more feminine way , either I will tend to show some masculine features from different reasons : if the therapist is a woman (as I like girls sometime , and I was misleaded that for getting a girl attention you have to be masculine)
as a response of some interactions : when I feel threatened , embarrassed .. (i think the pressure from the society and the universal 'normality' made me inhibit crying , especially in front of girls , although i feel like crying very often , in many situations ).
That is why I prefer an online therapy , with someone I don't know nothing about , including the 'gender'