To answer Mister's question, I never said that a post-op TS is "required" to tell a spouse ahead of time. However, if a relationship is going to begin to get serious, I believe it is wiser to tell the person sooner rather than later. While it is still technically none of their business, if you truly love a person and that person loves you and the two of you want to spend the rest of your days together, the less you hide then the higher quality the relationship will be.