A "Simple" question for all.

[Janet_Girl]

As close as I can get now.  Next step is ether an Orchie or SRS, whichever I can afford first.


Janet

[LordKAT]

For those who voted: "Yes, I am!".
Does your gender now match the sex which you were born in?

No

[Alyssa M.]

Seriously?

I don't recall ever being given the choice. No Morpheus ever showed up to offer me a red pill or a blue pill. And if he had, I don't know which I would have picked. I probably would have told him to go to hell.

So the answer to your question is, "no." But none of your options apply, so I can't vote.

[Just Kate]

Think about it and answer honestly.
Please stand by for future comment. 

"ARE you your chosen gender?"

Ack!  Where is the "No" response?

[heatherrose]

It is my poll, so you first Interalia.
I will answer soon enough.
Thirty-one hundred and seventy-three
people still haven't answered yet.
Our ranks have swelled by twenty-seven
since Wednesday the second.

[Nero]

For those who voted: "Yes, I am!".
Does your gender now match the sex which you were born in?

[heatherrose]

Sex: Tangible characteristics.
Gender: Self identification.

[Nero]

Sex: Tangible characteristics.
Gender: Self identification.

okay, then no, it doesn't. and my sex doesn't match it much anymore either.

[heatherrose]

It was obvious from the day you were born to everyone,
your parents, siblings, relatives, teachers, friends that you
had always been and forever would be "a woman/female"?

You didn't ever need to voice an opinion one way
or another as to how you identified yourself?

Your never made a "choice" that you were no longer going to
present as something you did not consider yourself to be?

[Miniar]

I never chose to be a man, all I chose was to stop pretending I was a girl.

[Walter]

I chose "Yes, I am!" even though I haven't had any operations or T. It just seemed convenient to pick though

[Miniar]

My gender will never match the sex I was born in.
I can never undo the fact that my body was born female.
I can never undo the fact that "I" am male.
The two will never "match".

[heatherrose]

For those who voted: "Yes, I am!".
Does your gender now match the sex which you were born in?

No my sex does not match the gender I have chosen to express.


The single most important thing that we should learn from our intersexed
sisters and brothers and from stories such as "As Nature Made Him" is,  no matter
how much money we spend on clothes and make overs, no matter what magic juice
we shoot-up with or pills we pop, no matter how well we can convince our "shrink"
nor how fast you can clear the hurdles on our path to SRS, if we are not now
the gender we have decided that we can no longer repress expression,
we never will be.

None of  us were given a choice as to what gender we identify with but the
way we live our life is nothing but a long string of choices. Choices filtered through
the personality we are equipped with at birth. Choices based upon circumstance,
perspective and wisdom. If we are hoping for transition, hormones or some surgery
to make us the gender we have chosen we want to present ourselves as,
perhaps we should look elsewhere for what ever it is that
will fill the void and ease the pain we feel.

[Mister]

It was obvious from the day you were born to everyone,
your parents, siblings, relatives, teachers, friends that you
had always been and forever would be "a woman/female"?

You didn't ever need to voice an opinion one way
or another as to how you identified yourself?

Your never made a "choice" that you were no longer going to
present as something you did not consider yourself to be?

That's like saying that since I have skeletal problems, I chose to limp. 

[heatherrose]

On Jan. 27th. of 2006, I decided that I no longer was going to fight
to repress my sexual identity and I decided to start my new life with the
decision to dress my bald headed 240 lb. frame, with it's primary and secondary
male sexual characteristics, in a skirt and fluffy sweater. Don't kid yourself,
it is all about the decisions you make. You can decide to suffer in silence
or you can decide to express yourself, as you see fit. It is your decision.

Post Merge: September 16, 2009, 06:59:01 AM

"The foundation was laid when Mama said, "If I continued with "this"
I will "let you go" and concentrate my efforts on your brothers and sister".
Everything after, was an effort to prove yourself worthy of her love. What
the hell is that, love? It's something you say, not something you feel. What
you feel is the shame of your "secret" and fear. Fear of being discovered and
fear of abandonment. The only way to keep from collapsing into a quivering mass
is to do what is expected of you. You don't try to figure yourself out because then
you would be admitting that you were one of "those", you know, the freaks Dad
makes fun of. You start manning up with weights and you try to prove that
you can work harder than your brother, when Dad needs help on the truck."

Everything that I have done has been to prove I was a man.
Everything that I have accomplished,
everything that I have found enjoyment in,
everyone that I have hurt.
Is because of the life that I built on lies,
the expert lies I have told to hide the truth.
I know who I am but now that the vapor
that was once was my life has dissipated,
What am I?