MTF Transitioning in your thirties (30's)?

[KabitTarah]

I'll give an update.

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<3 to all my sisters transitioning in their 30's! Courage to you!

Thank you Adabelle! ♥

[MadeleineG]

Adabelle,

I owe you a debt of thanks.

Watching your amazing transition video on YT helped immensely to build confidence to move forward. Of all the transition videos on the internet, yours was the one that spoke to me. We have a very similar facial structure and are close in age.

Thank you so much reposting and thank you for the update. You're amazing!  

[JillSter]

<3 to all my sisters transitioning in their 30's! Courage to you!

Adabelle, that video was wonderful! You look so happy! And your family looks so sweet. And you look cool as hell hanging out with Chaz Bono.

It got me all weepy! You have me doing the happy/sad cry now! That kinda cry where you aren't sure which it is because it makes you really happy but it hurts so much at the same time. And now I can't stop! Your video really messed me up, but in a good way!

Thank you for sharing it.

I guess I can finally join this thread now that I'll be starting HRT next month.

[Joanna Dark]

I started HRT when I was on the verge of turning 31 nine months ago and it's been not so difficut until now. I'm having a lot of doubts even as I seem to look more femme.

[Adabelle]

I started HRT when I was on the verge of turning 31 nine months ago and it's been not so difficut until now. I'm having a lot of doubts...

Having some doubts I think is normal. I had some too during my transition, and once my dysphoria had gone away it let me think clearly about my gender identity (I realized that I'm not really 100% female, but like 80/20, which then made me have some doubts early on). It depends on what your doubts are about, and how strong they are. I hope you have someone (maybe an experienced gender therapist) you can talk to about this stuff. If not this forum is a great resource.

Ultimately transition for me was about finding my true self, and I'd not have been ashamed if I discovered that I needed to stop and process some things along the way. I hope you won't feel pressure to either transition or stop transitioning - but can move forward in whatever path feels right for you. But to be honest, transition is such a difficult thing I think it's normal to have doubts along the way. Only you can know if those doubts are strong enough, or serious enough that you need to stop and process things or change direction.

P.S. Thanks for the kind remarks in response to my previous post all!

[Sammy]

Having some doubts I think is normal. I had some too during my transition, and once my dysphoria had gone away it let me think clearly about my gender identity (I realized that I'm not really 100% female, but like 80/20, which then made me have some doubts early on).

Wow! Thank You soooo much - this came just in time . Perfect . You are describing the state of mind I am currently in  and I found Your post to be very helpful .

[Sandra_Dickinson]

Adabelle, for whatever reason you started this thread it's helped so many people by the responses alone - and you can count me as another 30's transitioner who's inspired by your journey and strength.

I was honestly having an awful day today, and this has picked me up no end <3

[HelloKitty]

Oh yes! We wont be so hot and drop down gorgeous as young bloomers, but... We are more mature, wiser and generally smarter than them too. And anyway, in their 20-ties most chicks are hot - it is when we hit 30 - 40-ties when competition gets tougher. And although we have not had a lot of their experience and conditioning, our skin might look better than theirs, because You know - one of the things that T does - is keeps skin tigher and elastic. After having started HRT, I have such a babyface... .
So, we should go for a different kind of appeal, classy and lady-like style, instead of girlie behaviour, and by Goddess -  is there anyone who would dare to say that such woman is not sexy?

Oh, 30's transitioners can be just as young and hot looking as the younger ones.
Teehee!

[BunnyBee]

Oh yes! We wont be so hot and drop down gorgeous as young bloomers

Pfffffttt!

[Brooke777]

Oh yes! We wont be so hot and drop down gorgeous as young bloomers, but...

I think we could have some fun with this statement. How about a challenge? I would gladly head to a bar with an early transitioner in my area, and see who gets hit on first, and most. I would love to prove that those of us in our thirties can do just as well as the young girls.

[Sammy]

I think we could have some fun with this statement. How about a challenge? I would gladly head to a bar with an early transitioner in my area, and see who gets hit on first, and most. I would love to prove that those of us in our thirties can do just as well as the young girls.

Go for it But the outcome would then quite depend on the type of bar You decided to visit .

[Allie]

Having some doubts I think is normal. I had some too during my transition, and once my dysphoria had gone away it let me think clearly about my gender identity (I realized that I'm not really 100% female, but like 80/20, which then made me have some doubts early on). It depends on what your doubts are about, and how strong they are. I hope you have someone (maybe an experienced gender therapist) you can talk to about this stuff. If not this forum is a great resource.

I feel the same as well, that I am not 100% female. But I assumed it was that way because I feel like a bull in a china shop. The akwardness of acting in a female manner all the time, trying to walk in heels, not drinking beer, I just really do not feel refined.

I am not sure whether this is something that with more polish, learning and refinement as you go through transition that changes, maybe the ratio changes??

[HelloKitty]

Go for it But the outcome would then quite depend on the type of bar You decided to visit .

I would love to try it too just for fun. But young guys like 19-early 20's in a straight dance club hit on me, lol.
And I did better that night than most of my cis girlfriends, they were like wow you go girl lol.

So it can happen.
Sometimes

[Sammy]

I would love to try it too just for fun. But young guys like 19-early 20's in a straight dance club hit on me, lol.
And I did better that night than most of my cis girlfriends, they were like wow you go girl lol.

So it can happen.
Sometimes

I am sure You had lotsa fun there . But... dont guys in that age bracket essentially hit on everything which is alive and remotely resembles a female??? (and before anyone decides to jump on me, that was not meant as personal remark, just an observation)

[HelloKitty]

I am sure You had lotsa fun there . But... dont guys in that age bracket essentially hit on everything which is alive and remotely resembles a female??? (and before anyone decides to jump on me, that was not meant as personal remark, just an observation)

They have no clue I'm trans, dearie
You can think I look 100% guy all you want but I pass rather well in real life, tyvm. I will refrain on saying what I rhink of YOUR appearance. Insults and waring isnt something i wanna do.

I just re-read what you said, i underatnd i think. Yes guys will hit on lmost nything lol, thats true. LD

My friends were more attractive than i am but i had more luck because i happen to be a better, more seductive dancer than them lol.

I am sorry if i had initially misread your intent

[BlindSeeress]

I don't mean to thread-Necro, but this is such a helpful and supportive thread for me (and for other 30-somethings like me), that I like to promote it's longevity. I'm having something of a difficult transition from Youth to Adulthood (mid-30s). I discovered a concentration line on my forehead a few months ago as I was gearing up to begin pre-HRT weightloss, and the shock was kinda hard. I'd always pictured that I would transition while I still had my youthful beauty, and that somehow I would come out the other side beautiful in a hot young woman sort of way (passing is less important to me than feeling beautiful and feminine these days.) When I realized that, yes, I was aging, I started to panic about whether I had missed the boat and whether I would come through transition as a drab, masculine and unpretty woman. This thread really gives me confidence and hope.

Thank you all.

[KayXo]

Hormones definitely do help! You have a lot to look forward to. Don't worry, be happy.

[Aquarelle]

I am transitioning right in the middle of my 30's, although I now accuse myself, that I didn't begin, when I was 18... but I was just too scared, because of unsupportive and aggressive father... nevermind...
I started HRT short after my 32nd birthday and now I am 33 and about to go fulltime in a month or so, I hope
Many times I also wonder why there aren't many stories about people, transitioned in their 30's... I saw a post, where marriage and kids were mentioned, but I am not sure it is the reason, because at least I am 33 and don't have a family and I know other people with the same conditions.
Nevertheless, I think there are good sides of it, because you have financial stability and are young enough at the same time. I thought, that 30's would be too late to achieve good results form HRT, but luckily I was mistaken The only things, that I regret starting that late, are my hair problems, because of androgenic alopecia, which now prevents me from looking female enough, also the male fat pattern and shape, that I still fight with all my powers... 10 days ago I started progesterone, which I think is doing a good job about my shape and hair, so maybe the things will get fixed sooner, than expected

[FrancisAnn]

Girl friends enjoy being in your 30's & you can become beautiful women. I tried to transition in my early 20's long ago & again several times in my early 30's. There were just too many family & work problems to become myself. Now I'm in my 50's. I'm OK with my life however you girls please enjoy life & do not delay in completing your transition. Have fun, be happy.

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

Girl friends enjoy being in your 30's & you can become beautiful women. I tried to transition in my early 20's long ago & again several times in my early 30's. There were just too many family & work problems to become myself. Now I'm in my 50's. I'm OK with my life however you girls please enjoy life & do not delay in completing your transition. Have fun, be happy.

Thanks for that.