Hello Anne,
Welcome to Susan's. This is a wonderful web site, and I think that you will find that we are not a bad bunch of people. As you've realised , Susan's covers the wide spectrum of the transgendered people, and as Shelley has pointed out everyone who visits Susan's is treated equally. This is a safe, comfortable place, where you can be yourself, and interact with many who are in the same situation as yourself and those who are not.
So relax, browse around, check out the Wiki, and the library, and be sure to join in the conversations, or start one of your own.
Chat later,
Steph