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Have you ever feared that you weren't "trans enough"?

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Have you ever feared that you weren't "Trans Enough"?

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Asche

#60
April 21, 2025, 07:15:51 AM
Not really.

I haven't made "being trans" a goal in my life, I try to become myself.  I am what I am, and in the present social & political environment, that is called "trans."  (And a lot of other things that you probably aren't allowed to say on this site....)  I have gotten where and who I am by trying out things to make me more comfortable and more myself and to make things work better.

There are plenty of people who will tell me I'm "doing it wrong", and there have been my whole life, but I have never been able to be what they say I have to be, so I don't argue with them, I just shrug my shoulders and walk away.  Or I wait for them to get bored and frustrated and stomp off.
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Robyn Zola

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Yesterday at 02:15:22 PM Last Edit: Yesterday at 02:36:20 PM by Devlyn Reason: Language: https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=247168.0
I can only speak for myself, of course. But I look at it this way: I'm first year Gen X. And when I look to my CIS Gen X sisters and their attitude ... they just don't care. We're too old for that.

I think that attitude is helpful for questions like these because they are questions about the outside and other, not about you and your feelings. Do you feel trans? I would think then that you are trans and take it from old women... just don't care.

I don't mean that flippantly, but sincerely. And I know it takes a while, and much pain, to get to that point. But that is our human journey.

Finally Anna

#62
Yesterday at 02:39:06 PM
No. I haven't.
I've wondered whether I am trans but once I realized, accepted, that I am trans I haven't feared that I'm not trans enough.
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Stottie Girl

#63
Yesterday at 02:53:44 PM
Trans enough for what?

I have never thought I was anything other than a woman in the wrong body and I am now taking steps to correct this.
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Lori Dee ✅

#64
Yesterday at 03:06:44 PM
The question is misleading.

Either you are, or you are not. There is no degree of transness.

Gender is a spectrum, and we can exist anywhere on it. @Susan has a wonderful thread discussing the topic in detail. It is well worth the read.

https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=247148.msg2262144#msg2262144
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ChrissyRyan

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Yesterday at 03:20:35 PM Last Edit: Yesterday at 07:36:29 PM by ChrissyRyan
No.  I used to be a cross dresser.  Later, after gaining clarity I realized that I was not a crossdresser but a MTF transsexual.  I do wear female clothes but as a woman I am no longer a crossdresser unless I suppose when I wear some older men's clothes.  But women can wear guy's clothes to some extent and they are not considered to be crossdressers.  So confusing!

So no, I am transsexual and that is something you are or are not. 

Now there are some transgender groups that thumb their noses on some transgender people who are not as far along with their transitions as those snobs are.


Note that transgender is quite the broad term.

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