Looking back, I found that the guilt, fear and shame that I felt had everything to do with how others felt about me... and left me with no self-worth. When I was a teen, I would get drunk, turn the music up in my room and imagine I was at a party... and that people liked me, that I could talk and laugh and dance like no one was watching and not worry about what others thought. Going into adulthood, I started to use just so I could spend a few hours without the dysphoria.
When I came out, I felt exactly as you describe.... I could only imagine what others were saying about me and it drove me nuts. I felt like a freak, plain and simple. As I worked through transition, though, I found that the more "myself" I became, the less abnormal I felt. The first few days when I started to change my appearance were tough but after awhile I started to feel right with myself. Others noticed that and responded to it favorably.
I think what helped me the most is reaching out to other people... I joined a support group (best thing I ever did!) and started attending LGBT events, even though I didn't know anyone... It's an amazing feeling to get out and meet people that are just like you
I even reached out to coworkers who would listen... I've been quite candid about my transition with them and it's paid off. I've made new friends that are starting to offset the family and friends that I lost for being Trans. A good sense of humor helps, too... Some of the things we do as Transfolks are just plain bizarre to most... Being able to laugh about that makes everyone feel more at ease.
Before I started transition, I was diagnosed with Social and Generalized Anxiety Disorders and Clinical Depression. Now, almost 6 years later, the Social Anxiety is completely gone (if anything, I'm a little
too outgoing these days, lol) The depression is mostly gone and I'm far less anxious than I used to be. In my case, transition was the appropriate treatment for my GID and treatment worked. It's not perfect and it won't change who you are inside but living as you were meant to live should start to make you feel better. It sounds like you've just begun.... This stuff takes awhile... know that you're not always going to feel "abnormal." You've already started.. with each step you take, you'll feel a little stronger..
Jessica