Another superficial thread... (so don't open if you don't want to read it)

[Wild Flower]

Where do you find a guy as a transsexual woman?

[April Dawne]

I get this kind of stuff now and then too. Random PM's from someone, usually starting with "Hi, want sexy chat?" Or something along those lines. IF I humor them and talk, it's usually not long before I'm being told that they love me, they wan't to marry me, they want me to move out there etc etc. And of course they are asking over and over for pics or cam or dirty talk etc. After telling them I'm not interested, if they keep messaging or BUZZING I just ignore them. Random guys, especially from overseas who are suddenly in love with you after five minutes of chat, are not something to take even slightly serious. At some point they are liable to start asking for money, or if they seriously want you to come there, it's for less than respectable reasons. I would hate for anyone to go overseas and never be heard from again because they were either killed or forced into the sex trade. It happens.

[April Dawne]

Where do you find a guy as a transsexual woman?

Try www.transgenderdate.com

As with anything, be careful! There are creeps and predators just waiting for girls like us to take their bait....

[Luna!]

The thing I'm a little concerned about is that looking through the stuff Wildflower has been posting recently, she seems to be in a big rush to find someone. I'm not exactly a pro at relationships myself, but a two-day period after meeting seems a bit quick to call a 'relationship'; I'd be calling someone I've known for 2-3 days and never actually dated an 'acquaintance' at best, even if she was the world's hottest supermodel and offering to buy me a fancy car (nice to think about though... ^_^).

There's not enough time to properly gauge whether someone's right for you if you rush crazily into things. People are bad enough at this sort of thing when given a few months; all the hormones can be really blinding (that's kind of what they're for). It's pretty easy to make a huge mistake and not realize it until much later, when you're basically trapped as someone's live-in maid/sex toy.

If you start getting a feeling of "I have to act now; he'll lose interest if I don't", you have to realize that these are your hormones talking to you. As hard as it seems, you have to slow down a little. The guys who say they love you after a few days are usually the kind that aren't good for you; they're using your emotions. If they've actually fallen in love so quickly (very rare for this to happen, and a bit dangerous in itself), they'll be more patient and willing to actually get to know you. The bad kind of guys will get frustrated; they never wanted to know you in the first place. They're the internet equivalent of the guy who'll dump his 'girlfriend' if she doesn't sleep with him on the first date. Better not to know that kind of guy, I think.

...And that's the end of my little advice column. Be sure to check in next week, when I'll be giving out tips on the best place to plant your tulips. ^_^

[Nicole99]

Where do you find a guy as a transsexual woman?

Same way any other woman does I think.  Stop looking. 

It is freaking hard I admit. To find someone who is ok with your genital status. Kind of puts you at a disadvantage. This does not mean you have to settle for crap. You still deserve a good partner.

[Cindy]

Beware of people who want to control you.

They will do just that.

You will not have a relationship, you will have slavery.

Without being in any way racial, be very careful of other countries rules. There was recent case of an Australian woman who was raped in (I think Saudi, but maybe Yemen). She reported the rape, she was then was jailed for 6 months for adultery.

Cindy

[Ann Onymous]

Where do you find a guy as a transsexual woman?

I cannot speak to finding a guy since I am not looking for one and never have in the 30 years since I realized I was lesbian, but as someone else noted, you would do it the same way as any natal woman would.  It is no different when I look for women to date...and it tends to be that the less I actively seek someone one, the more I have women engaging me which turns into conversation which may or may not turn into an exchange of numbers which may or may not result in a few dates. 

The absolute worst thing to do is go looking with the intent of finding a long-term relationship.  Those sorts of things just happen, but you cannot seek them out or force the issue... 

[Cindy]

So true.

[Wild Flower]

ooohh...

I found a guy willing to pay for hormones, breast job, and SRS....

And he's in the USA.... THIS GUY HAS A FETISH though, so this isn't a long-term relationship at all...

but it's making me think, "Hmm be with him then get passable then leave. Take the surgeries and go"

Now where do I find these people lol!

[VeryGnawty]

THIS GUY HAS A FETISH though, so this isn't a long-term relationship at all...

but it's making me think, "Hmm be with him then get passable then leave. Take the surgeries and go"

I get the strange feeling that he would not be too fond of that idea.  If you want to try to cheat strange people, that is your business.  But, I can predict the headlines already...

[tekla]

THIS GUY HAS A FETISH though, so this isn't a long-term relationship

For most people their fetish(s) are not just long-term, they are life long.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

FullMoon19 (is your name Maylene?) I wouldnt advise any non-Muslim women to seek relationships with a Muslim man unless they revert first, otherwise you will just attract some pervert who will either use you for sex then ditch you when hes done or treat you like trash throughout the relationship, divorces can be very risky in Saudi.

Also dont talk to him about sex or marriage. Tell him space aliens are going to invade the world and use humans as slaves, watch his enthusiasm die.

yeah, that is my name. i'm not sure where you remember me from. anyway, i don't think he's going to work for me. i guess he seems nice, but i don't really like the idea of someone so culturally different than what i'm used to as someone who i would be in a steady, romantic relationship with.

[JulieC.]

I guess I'm hugely old fashioned but I couldn't imagine being in love with or talking about marriage or coming to live with someone I hadn't even met face to face.  It's far too easy to lie on line.  All of these guys sound like someone to avoid.