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The Start of Something Beautiful

Started by MaxAloysius, June 19, 2011, 06:05:05 AM

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MaxAloysius

I thought I'd share with everyone on here something that I've noticed at my work of late. I work in a retail store that sells childrens toys, science kits, plush animals and such.

I know most people on here will understand when I say we were brought up with our 'gender specific' toys. Boy's got plastic tool kits and cars, girls got barbies and kitchen sets. Well not anymore. Day after day I see children come into our store asking for things that aren't specific to their gender, with their happy-to-go-along-with-it parents in tow. No less than five little girls came in today begging to see all of our dinosaur stock, their parents smiling happily as they paid for the plastic dinosaur sets and bone dig-out kits, not a single comment on how their little girl was so strange for liking 'boy's' toys.

Our staff have actually had to change their 'leading questions' we're all taught to ask, as well as learn not to assume anything. When I first started working there, you would ask 'are you looking for something for a boy or a girl?' to which we would show them the specifically male/female toys. That question has now been elliminated entirely, because it's no longer relevant, and just ended up making us look stupid when a customer said 'Actually, she hates pink. Do you have any ant farms?'

I just think that's something the general public don't necessarily get to see. It's happening slowly, but the change is there. Just thought I'd share with you all. :D
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MaxAloysius

I should also mention that my now five year old nephew, a huge lover of toy cars and trains, has owned a tea set since he was two, since he just HAD to have it. His mother didn't see anything wrong with it, and he's been lovingly serving us invisible tea in pink flowery cups for a couple of years now. :D
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Myself

Just proves that inherently male and females are only humans, nothing really different.
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silverarrow

lol all the little girls I know have nerf guns and tonka trucks and the little boys play house with 'action figures'. but I just see all the kids playing 'war' later on thinking they can regenerate. Yeah, no more gender based toys, but no more black ops for 7 year olds -_-
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Ratchet

Quote from: MaxAloysius on June 19, 2011, 06:05:05 AM
Our staff have actually had to change their 'leading questions' we're all taught to ask, as well as learn not to assume anything. When I first started working there, you would ask 'are you looking for something for a boy or a girl?' to which we would show them the specifically male/female toys. That question has now been elliminated entirely, because it's no longer relevant, and just ended up making us look stupid when a customer said 'Actually, she hates pink. Do you have any ant farms?'

Ironically, I also work for a toy company. The largest chain toy company in the world. Just bragging, haha. I specifically work in Electronics, and "Action Toys". Everyone knows how in stores, things are divided by sections. What was once "Girl's Toys" is now labeled "Dolls" by company policy, and "Boys" as "Action Toys". This has always been the case, since I started working there 2 and half years ago. The change is happening, ever so slowly. It's now beginning to be more and more okay to be anything you want to be, not the things specifically "designed" to be for "you". Girls no longer have to be like their mother's who have to stay at home and cook and clean because that's what "women" do.

I once had a middle aged man come in. I asked him, "Are you shopping for a boy or a girl?" and he was like "My son, he's gonna be 3 later this year. But I wanted to pick something up for him." I was going to proceed to ask "Well, what does he like?" to better know what sort of things to look for. Because being a boy or girl doesn't really narrow down the options enough, it's just a nice question to get a guest talking. But the man continued, "Well, I was wondering if you guys had plastic cook sets. Cause you see, I'm a chef. My son has been getting in the kitchen and messing with the pans and trying to cook like dad." He proceeded to show me a picture of his son. He was so proud and thrilled that his son wanted to cook like daddy, to be like dad. It was the sweetest thing I've encountered to this day.

I felt bad when the man felt a little disturbed when all of the plastic, fake cooking things were up in the pink coded aisles meant for "Girls" more accurately, "Dolls". But most people associated the pink with girls before they think dolls. Even myself. He even made a comment about finding something gender neutral so that it wasn't pink accented pots and pans. Thankfully, we do carry that sort of thing as well. But I found it so... nice.

I've seen girls look for wrestlers, a woman calling looking for figures for her 8 year old daughter that loves wrestling, a boy look for a electronic cool puppy, or a girl doll to put with his army men so they can have a wife.

You see how the world is changing when you see the little kids come into the store, and you help them find those toys they're interested in.
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Ender

That's cool.  About time, really.  I'm still waiting for McDonald's to stop asking "girl toy or boy toy?".

I remember watching a VHS some time in elementary school (or maybe it was an episode of Sesame Street on PBS) about not making fun of other kids.  There was a video clip of a little boy running around the playground with a Cabbage Patch doll, and all the other kids were laughing at him, but that didn't stop him.  It kind of made an impression.

Max (and Ratchet), would you say that parents are more OK with their girls getting "boy" toys compared to their boys asking for "girl" toys?  Just wondering, because I've got this impression that it is more permissible (even encouraged) for girls to mix up their toy choices, while boys still might face ridicule if they ask for something that might be considered "girly."
"Be it life or death, we crave only reality"  -Thoreau
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Ratchet

Quote from: Ender on June 19, 2011, 07:29:05 PMMax (and Ratchet), would you say that parents are more OK with their girls getting "boy" toys compared to their boys asking for "girl" toys?  Just wondering, because I've got this impression that it is more permissible (even encouraged) for girls to mix up their toy choices, while boys still might face ridicule if they ask for something that might be considered "girly."

I'd almost definitely say yes. I feel like the variety comes more from girls picking boy things then vice versa. I know a younger boy, 10 year old, that wrote in a book about his history (it was a gift from his grandmother, she's into history) saying he wished when he grew up to be a girl. And be named Taylor and not Tyler. We happened to read this, and his father is a manly man. We all decided to keep the book out of his attention, and talk to the boy alone. Who did really want to talk about it, and got upset. His father would totally blow his lid if he asked for any girl related items. He turns his nose up at his wanting to sew while his older sister does.

I've seen boy get ridiculed a lot more then any girl. I grew up playing with all the boy toys, loving all the boy sports, etc etc. I never was ridiculed for it. But I feel like the boys will get ridiculed if they aren't "manly" enough. Or if they're too emotional, or sensitive. because that's for "girls". Toys are all part of the eyes people like to lay on people.

On a side note...

I thought this was hilarious at about 0:32 I show up for a brief second.
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Ender

Ratchet--yeah, I'm definitely not a fan of what seems like a huge double standard.

Quote from: Ratchet on June 19, 2011, 09:56:03 PM
On a side note...

I thought this was hilarious at about 0:32 I show up for a brief second.

LOL.  How did you run across that?  Y'know, every time somebody is walking around with a camera or video recorder and happens to get me in the frame, I wonder if I am going to be unwittingly making an appearance on Flickr or YouTube or something.
"Be it life or death, we crave only reality"  -Thoreau
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Sharky

Quote from: Ratchet on June 19, 2011, 09:56:03 PM
On a side note...

I thought this was hilarious at about 0:32 I show up for a brief second.

:icon_lol: I think it looks bad, but what does it matter if he is sagging is pants? I don't see why this would bother a kid at all.
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