An unexpected journey

[togetherwecan]

I met and fell in love with this amazing person. Someone who is everything I have ever wanted. Someone who loves me too. So much so they told me the truth about themselves because of how serious we are even though they themselves are struggling with their discovery and acceptance of themselves.
I am a woman. The person I am in love with is physically a man. He believes he is a transsexual. I have no reason to doubt it all and in fact can see many things so much clearer now. I only found this out last night though and I am in a kinda strange place. Funny thing I feel totally ok about everything so far. I think I am struggling with the details tho. The what does this mean, what is he/she going to do, where do I fit in, what does this make me, how much is ok to talk about, what terminology is now appropriate?
I say I love "him", but I question the accuracy of the word "him". I don't know his plans yet. I think he is going to start therapy. I am sure there is a long journey in front of us. I want to be a part of it. I love him. I don't care what sex they are as long as they are happy. Their sex doesn't change who they are and what I love about them.
So...where does one go from here? This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

[Gill]

Hello Togetherwecan:

Welcome to Susan's.  I am really glad that you found us.  For me I found that initial post one of the hardest things to do but once done the flood gates begin to open.

I am glad your SO told you about what is happening to them and that you still want to be with her.  It makes all the difference in the world when we are not butting heads with our spouses, when we can work with them/together towards a goal.

It's a long bumpy road with many twists and turns and there may be times when you just can't take it anymore, but we get through those moments.  Once through them, we are stronger and inevitably we end up knowing more about ourselves than we ever thought possible.  I will be honest with you and I will not paint a rose coloured story for you - it's going to be a rough ride.  But you know who it is that you want by your side and that is important.

I am glad that you have found us.  Please feel free to vent, yell, cry, laugh with us.  Again welcome and I look foward to reading more from you.

Gill

[Bob]

Togather...
sounds like you got what it takes to me ! just haing in there and cling tightly to that love !
because that is what counts!
your knowledge will increase with time, if you help it, so read all you can here !
terms are a real pain ! but are nessarry ! <grin> as when I ask for a 9/16" wrench  I didn't ask for that thingamagig! ... its important to Know what your talking about ! ...obviously !
haing in there Kiddo !
if your love is strong it won't be near as bad !
....
Bob....

[togetherwecan]

Thanks very much for the warm welcome. Obviously this is all knew to me for the most part. All I know is I am in love with the person I met. I don't care what happens so long as we can be together.
I am a researcher so have spent hrs reading everything I can find. I think I got a lot of it down pretty good already. It helps arming yourself with knowledge.
I think right now is just somewhat awkward as we are trying to define where things are for her, for me and for us. We both know we are going to be together, but more of getting me caught up to where she is. Also she wasn't exactly expecting me to be so ok with everything so she herself is reeling.
I feel like we have just gone through a rush of so many different emotions in a short period of time.
This is a song for her...I love her.


Thanks for letting me share.

[cindianna_jones]

Together,

You are an exceptionally brave woman.  Your partner is so lucky to have found you.  I have found that couples who can work this together build incredibley well founded relationships.

I am glad that you found this forum.  It is filled with a roster of very talented and caring people.  Please, share with us.  We all gain from each others experiences. Welcome.

Cindi

[Jillieann Rose]

Hello Togetherwecan,
Oh our SO must be so happy that you have accepted her for who she is.
And you are a special person not only accepting her but want to learn all you can so that you can help her. Wow! If only more of us had an SO like you.
As has already been said this will be a bumping ride but your love and acceptance will really help her through it. I would suggest that what she will need from you more than anything is for you to be her best friend. Someone she can share with and learn from. There are so many things that you will be able to teach her. Thinks like makeup hair styling what to wear and when just to name a few.
I'm glad you found the site.
If your look information about gender issues this is the place.
Please read the site rules if you haven't at:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html if you haven't already.
Then check out the Wiki, with ton of info on the gender topics.
Oh and check out our chat and links section too. Have a great read.
Welcome to Susan's.

Jillieann

[togetherwecan]

Thanks! She is just too awesome to walk away from. I would be an idiot. I didn't fall in love with a penis, I fell in love with a person.
I don't know if SHE knows what she's in for as I am a total girly girl and love all that entails.
She is really into products so I have shared a few of my favorites with her. I am partial to the lip plumpers from Sally Hansen. They feel really good and they do work.
I also sent her some links to where I buy my sexy shoes. I am a shoe freak and have a lot of luck purchasing them online. She has some, but I bet she would really like the sound of stilleto boots clicking on the pavement. Luckily the sites I use have sizes that will fit.
Yeah best friends, I think we are there already. I know she is mine and I think I am hers.
Today was the first day I woke up and  it was "her" name that I thought of first. I think I am adjusting well.

[tinkerbell]

   Thank you very much for your wonderful introduction.  You are definitely a very courageous woman, and I am also very glad you have found us.  We have amazing people here who are always willing to listen, share their experiences and provide support and advice when we need it the most.  So please don't hestitate to ask questions and take advantage of all our wonderful resources such as the wiki, the chat, and the reference library.  Enjoy your stay at Susan's and thanks so much for sharing your story. 

tinkerbell

[togetherwecan]

Thanks! She is just too awesome to walk away from. I would be an idiot. I didn't fall in love with a penis, I fell in love with a person.
I don't know if SHE knows what she's in for as I am a total girly girl and love all that entails.
She is really into products so I have shared a few of my favorites with her. I am partial to the lip plumpers from Sally Hansen. They feel really good and they do work.
I also sent her some links to where I buy my sexy shoes. I am a shoe freak and have a lot of luck purchasing them online. She has some, but I bet she would really like the sound of stilleto boots clicking on the pavement. Luckily the sites I use have sizes that will fit.
Yeah best friends, I think we are there already. I know she is mine and I think I am hers.
Today was the first day I woke up and  it was "her" name that I thought of first. I think I am adjusting well.

tink you are beaurtiful...amazingly so. TY for the warm welcome. If it mattters or makes sense, I had a call from Brooke tonight. I can barely breath.....I love this woman beyond words or expalantion.

Thanks! She is just too awesome to walk away from. I would be an idiot. I didn't fall in love with a penis, I fell in love with a person.
I don't know if SHE knows what she's in for as I am a total girly girl and love all that entails.
She is really into products so I have shared a few of my favorites with her. I am partial to the lip plumpers from Sally Hansen. They feel really good and they do work.
I also sent her some links to where I buy my sexy shoes. I am a shoe freak and have a lot of luck purchasing them online. She has some, but I bet she would really like the sound of stilleto boots clicking on the pavement. Luckily the sites I use have sizes that will fit.
Yeah best friends, I think we are there already. I know she is mine and I think I am hers.
Today was the first day I woke up and  it was "her" name that I thought of first. I think I am adjusting well.

ya know, Brooke will tell ya when she comes, but me being here doing my thing...it's a big deal. NOT that I am anyone important or special, but my time mattters to me...my time belongs to a woman named Brooke now...

tink you are beaurtiful...amazingly so. TY for the warm welcome. If it mattters or makes sense, I had a call from Brooke tonight. I can barely breath.....I love this woman beyond words or expalantion.

[Brooke_NY]

Hi there!

I read what you wrote about me.  You are the most incredible person I have ever met. I can't believe you're here and have done so much research in such a short time and how accepting and understanding you are. I have sat and listened to music in despair and wondered if there was really anybody out there like you. And here you are. I love you.

[togetherwecan]

hehe thanks Brooke...I am just being me.
I think maybe everyone thought I made you up j/k - LMAO, but yay, you're finally here!

You are SO gonna love it here.

[Bob]

Welcome Abord Brook_NY !
...
Bob...