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anyone never coming out?

Started by yabby, July 06, 2011, 04:48:21 PM

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yabby

I read here a few time, people that decided to never come out to their family (direct family, parents, i am not talking about extended family).

If this is what you did, why? does it mean you will never see your family again?
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Jennie

I will never come out to my Mom or Dad, I know they would not take it well and they do not look good on what they would term as "one of them".
Plus I figur that I am old enough now and my dad's heart is not too good, I will just not tell them and let them live the rest of there lives.  I have told my brother and a few other family members but not my Mon and Dad.  Aloha.

Jennie
ho'omo'o kau Pu'uwai= Follow your heart
Na hona ho'opili= Live life happy
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Hikari

I don't really plan on coming out to my father, even after transition, but that is more because I just don't plan on talking to him. I am sure he will find out eventually, after all I will tell my brother when I am a bit further along, not like people won't find out anyway, just seems easier to tell them really. Truth be told though, if I never seen either of my parents again i wouldn't be sad, and it has nothing to do with my GID really.
15 years on Susans, where has all the time gone?
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Sera

I see no point in telling anyone anything.  It would just create strife.  I avoid strife.  This is my greatest power, but also my greatest weakness..
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mowdan6

It really is a personal choice.  For myself, I told all of my family when I first came out 8 years ago.  My parents still don't accept me as their son, so I have very limited contact with them.  Not sure what happened to unconditional love, but I guess only a few of us get that lucky. 
I just decided to tell them because I did'nt want to have to live in 2 worlds....which would have driven me crazy, especially where I try my best to live an honest life.  And, I don't mean that to be an insult to anyone.  We all have to decide our own way/best way to transition.  There is no one 'right way' to do this stuff. 
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